Dating Dilemma!

Just looking for advice on how to decline further dates politely. Normally don''t have bother but this instance we have mutual friends & will likely bump into each other socially.

Lovely man who wined & dined me & declined my offer to contribute to bill. Said "you can get next time". Trouble is although he''s nice man & we got on well I''m definitely not attracted to him & don''t want a nxt time but feel obliged almost to return his generosity!

What do I say?

Hi
Could you use the line ''had a lovely evening, you are a charming man however I realised that I am not over the ex and ready to date again ... Bit tricky though if as you mentioned you may bump into him again ..
Poppy x

Why dont you use the ''realise not ready for dating but enjoyed your company as a friend and would like to return you generosity in paying for a meal sometime''.

There is no immediate commitement to see the guy again but acknowleges that you appreciated his paying. He would probably not expect you to do that under the above circumstances but at least it shouldnt be quite so difficult if you do see him amongst mutual friends.

Thanks... Received 3 irate messages from same as to why I had not replied.... I''ve been out all night!! Warning signs already. Can''t be bothered with the hassle!

Have done the latter & offered return of generosity, no reply which is perhaps a good thing:

Alarm bells! Give him the above lines and also speak to mutual friends for advice and so they are aware of potentially awkward situation!

He has now txted to apologise for xpecting prompt reply.......

Still can''t be bothered with hassle.. He''s either weird or I''m such a good catch he doesn''t want to let me go.. Lol .



Ps not really a dilemma I know, but it''s nice to be light hearted after all the heavy stuff!

i had the same redwine, a man at work aka `combover`, lovely man, recentley widowed, asked for a meal, as `friends` as we were both single
i agreed, but made sure he got the as friends thing, turns out the next few days he started questioning friends about me, how `ill want for nothing` etc
alarm bells
politley turned him down and never went for the meal
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