letting him off

A quick recap first of all STBH had an affair for a year told me day after boxing day they now live together and i''m left to pick up the pieces the usual story. We are now beginning the process of handing the business over to him. I think considering what he has done and treated me since i am being a brick. I have lost my temper only a couple of times in the early days, i''m helping him to take over the business as if i dont and leave him struggerling the business would go down with my name on it and he then couldnt pay me maintenance. Its less painful not to talk about her or ask any questions about his life which nearly kills me after being together 16 years, my question is am i being to good, am i letting him off lightly by not showing my emosions in front of him, i dont think he has any idea of how devistated i am and probably doesnt care, but im sure he thinks that now that a bit of time has gone by i''m over it but am i making things too easy being this way? some wise wiki words are needed as i''m feeling really low

Not sure about wise words. U will have to put up with me until someone decent comes along

This is dead jim. Its dead and buried. What is important is that you waste as little time on him and this as you can and you get out as quickly as you can in as good a shape as you can. Ok you are not going to get everything you want or need. But its damage limitation.

I know you want to stick it to him. But thats foolish. As a) It wastes time. b) It costs money. c) You have a life after this and doing a) or b) is just a waste.

So the message is. Do whatever you need to do to get this man out of your life as quickly as you can. Its not him your helping its you.

Just want to touch a little on life. Life has a habit of dealing with those that do stupid things. He did a stupid thing. He chucked away all those years. He will get his just rewards. You dont need to do anything or say anything. Just stand back. But in the meantime. Get on with your life. Rebuild it and dont look back. Life is too short. And you have a future to build. C.

Thankyou Marshy i knew i could rely on you, your advice always makes me feel so much better, i really appreciate it

Good Morning Nicwin,

Don''t know where you are in the world, but it looks like it''s going to be a beautiful summers day. Take the day and enjoy it, go for a run and breath in the air.

Marshy''s advice is so good and he is so right. You cannot control what your stbx thinks or feels but you can control what you think and feel.

Have a nice sunshiney day..

Warm wishes to you

LG xXx