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New relationship during divorce

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06 Jun 13 #396077 by lolamola
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Could any one advice if having a new relationship during the divorce process has an impact on child custody or the financial settlement? If not living together?

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06 Jun 13 #396088 by MrsMathsisfun
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No wouldn''t impact financial aspect nor really child matter unless new partner has history of abuse.

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06 Jun 13 #396106 by Fiona
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From the legal POV a new non cohabiting relationship has no impact on either the finances or arrangements for children.

However children may grieve for the loss of their parents relationship and blame a parent who left for someone else or started a new relationship soon after the family split. Also the other parent may have difficulties adjusting if they didn''t want to break-up and find themselves struggling financially and with looking after the children on their own. So to avoid inflaming the situation making negotiations for the financial/children arrangements more difficult and damaging long term family relationships more than necessary it makes sense to introduce new partners gradually and sensitively.

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07 Jun 13 #396115 by emma1010
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I think it''s on if new partners co habit then it could effect financially, not sure about custody rights

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07 Jun 13 #396117 by lolamola
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Thank you for your reply and information Fiona.
Our child is 2 so hopefully the divorce won''t have as much impact as it would if older although still sad not to be a normal family.

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21 Jun 13 #398028 by Animus
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My husband left me and our kids, still very much their dad, and it''s been ov a year now. I have met someone, so by rights, I should be able to move on, yes?

Advice I have been given is, yes, but don''t let my stbx know about it until after he''s signed his name to the collaborative agreement. Never underestimate the primal reaction of a dad, to the sudden understanding that another man is effectively raising his children. As marshy says, tread softly.....

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21 Jun 13 #398041 by Fiona
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The problem is it is likely to be more damaging if your ex finds out from someone else. Children aren''t very diplomatic and have the uncanny knack of "letting the cat out of the bag."

A new partner''s finances aren''t relevant unless you cohabit and share living expenses etc. If you cohabit and share finances a new partner''s finances are only relevant in that the contribute towards their household''s expenses which should leave their partner with more disposable income. In many cases cohabiting makes little or no difference to the finances.

However if non disclose of cohabitation or the intention to cohabit comes to light during court proceedings or after an agreement has been ratified by the court it can affect the non disclosing spouse''s credibility, or potentially lead to an application for the divorce settlement being set aside. Honesty is the best policy.

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