Drink Driving Husband

Looking for some advice please. I have been with my husband for nearly six years and he has always enjoyed a drink. He likes a drink at home most nights to unwind after work. Over the past couple of months he has went out in his car and met friends at his local pub and had a drink and then drove the car back home. (He usually goes out when i am at work) I am usually at home when he gets in and have been able to tell straight away that he has been drinking. I am really concerned as he could either kill himself or someone else or cause an accident. I have tried to speak to him about it on several occcasions, explaining I care about him and am worried as its becoming a regular occurance but he just ignore me and carrys on watching TV as if I am invisable. It only costs around £6 pounds for him to get a taxi home and he can afford too.

He is very arrogant and gives off a couldnt care less attitude as if he will never be caught. Its beginning to cause a major rift and I dont know what to do?

Any advice appreciated? Thank you.

Drink-driving is an offence, and the Scottish Govt has recently taken steps to reduce the legal alcohol limit for driving to just one pint. Drink-drivers face a maximum sentence of six months in prison, a fine of up to £5,000 and a 12-month ban.

If you believe him to be driving whilst over the legal limit, and have concerns for his, and other road users'' safety, you should call the police. You can do this anonymously. Or you could wait for him to drive into a tree, or a packed school bus....

I know only too well where you are coming from. My STBX of 25 years has always liked a drink. I have tried, and failed, to work out when it went from someone being the ''life and soul'' to someone who had a problem. It escalated and ecalated and I can only say he was a functioning alcoholic who has never acknowledged he has a problem. However, if someone''s drinking causes problems within their family, then it is a problem. He lost his DL five years ago, which was always going to happen. He was banned for a year, but never stopped driving. His company never knew, and he even got a new company car! I, and many other people, reported him to the police on numerous occasions, but he was never caught. He got his licence back, and was quite good for a short while, but then slipped back into his old ways. Again he was never caught. Last year he went with a friend/neighbour to a local event - walking distance, never mind taxi. They both spent several hours drinking heavily, and then the friend drove home, in STBX''s car. Serious accident - other drivers suffered life-changing injuries, and friend died. Shortly after STBX went to live with his GF as he couldn''t bear to see the widow and child on a virtually daily basis. The last year has been horrific, and I only wish he had been taken ''off the road'' sooner. You cannot discuss drinking, or drink driving, with anyone until they are stone cold sober. Even then, nothing will change unless they accept they have a problem. I also went through the doubts of knowing that he could lose his job, etc etc. Ultimately, better he had lost his job, and his licence, than someone their life. STBX is still waiting for trial after an horrific accident over a year ago (there are offences that he committed - he is likely to be banned for 3 years) but it is now completely his problem. My sympathies lay with a small child who has lost a father, and a young widow. Please, please, try and get him to see where it could head. xx

Hi,

Sadly, he will not listen, don''t try talking to him, the only result will be aggressive, my ex was the same, he was eventually caught by the police who blocked his mistress drive and followed him.

Do as Ruby says, contact the police, please be aware that there will be no going back, I did not report my husband but , even though police told him different, he blamed me.

Best wishes,

NWTT .

I agree too - I work in drug & alcohol field. He won''t acknowledge it''s a problem and will get angry. Contact the police, you are doing it for the sake of the public and him. Lots of our patients have seriously injured or killed people driving under the influence and it''s a hideous thing to live with for all concerned. Might make him take his problem seriously. Also contact your local D&A service for advice but police will be best bet. Good luck, you are actually doing him a favour though he won''t see it.