Relationship with someone going through a divorce

I am genuinely sorry to read your post

He was at least, honest with you about not being ready for a relationship. Perhaps you both wanted different types of relationships, you a more serious one, and he wanted a bit of fun (as you stated in your initial post). But you never know, perhaps in time, and when he is ready you may be able to resume your relationship - if you think that is an option then maybe leave the door open slightly and keep in touch with him?

Take care of yourself,

Ruth

idealist wrote:

So it ended. He seemed genuinely taken aback but I am convinced it was the right thing to do.

I am sorry that it came to this...

This happens a lot with people that get together and one is divorcing. A divorce puts a lot of pressure on someone and that leads to pressure on the relationship.

What I suggest you do is what Rubes said. Leave that door open and give him some head space to deal with what is in front of him. And perhaps in time, it will come right for you both. In the mean time, lick your wounds and chalk this one up to experience and learn from it. You need to be with someone that is properly free to concentrate on the relationship. Not have one foot in the past and one in the future. This goes for this relationship or any future one. Its a hard lesson to learn but a valuable one.

As for yourself, practice being a better communicator. As you said, you were in a long term relationship where comms was an issue. This needs to be resolved going forward as you need good comms to survive in a relationship. Bon chance. C.