WILL THEY EVER SPEAK TO ME AGAIN

After leaving my husband my grown up children don''t want to know me , they see me as the bad person but they knew what he was like and how he controlled me.one of them just about speaks to me but the other 2 don''t and keep my grand children away too. this hurts like crazy and so unfair.

Hello and I''m sorry to hear of the pain you are in.
My stbx left me last year after I found he had ow. My teenage boys refused to see him and then through councelling and my talks started. They still are very against him. However, when we told them he wasn''t coming back and for that reason I was filling for a divorce they turned on me. To this day my one son won''t accept it won''t talk about it won''t see things from my side and if I mention that I might like to meet someone else he walks away. The door is closed to that conversation and divorce is the new swear word.
Whatever the age whatever the reason kids see mom and dad as together for ever and their world and how they knew it has been thrown into disarray. I think one of the mistakes I made was not being aware of their pain I was too wrapped up in my own. I''m not saying you are doing this but you need to give them time to digest all that has happened and come to terms with it as things are never going be the same now to them as we''ll.
I hope it all settles down it must be heartbreaking not seeing them
Take care
BL xx

Thanx BL, yes it hurts like mad and I suppose because I came from a broken family I have been in there position before and blamed myself for my parents breakup, which wasn''t the case.
I just cant understand why they would have to take his side as they no how controlling he is and such a bully but maybe its a man thing and they all stick tog. the hardest thing is not seeing my granddaughter she is only 2 yrs old .