On the subject of love

Further to recent posts on what love is, here''s one attempt at an answer!

Interesting.

So, romantic, lustful, and attachment love are each just a load of chemicals swishing about in the brain.

Not much to get over excited for when you put it like that. Except when romantic and/or lust love chemicals are on a high tide, poor old attachment love gets shafted.

Just machines really aren''t we. Machines without a manual unless you add some form of spirituality into the mix.

So, if it''s all about the amount of dopamine sloshing about in the brain, does that mean it''s not our ex''s fault that they cheated on us - "sorry love, me dopamine was up".

Or should they have been able to tap into something outside the machine that would have enabled them to do the right thing.

Nige in a chemical conundrum

Good point Nige
... me thinks.. that''s what makes us human: the ability to ''think'' beyond whatever impulses our hormones are pushing us to! I mean think about PMT... but how many of us actually kill someone during that? we are human... not ''hormonal puppets''... i think... therefore i am?
oh crud... next lemsip is due
((()))

Commiserations SIC, I''m home with a terrible cold and sore throat too.

Nige

hi eliza watched but didn''t get it., I thought it aload of tosh sorry just my opinion .xxxxxxxx

No need to apologise to me Holly!! I don''t buy it myself, but then I don''t know what I think about anything these days. Completely bamboozled, world turned upside down.

When the man I knew as loving kind fair honest reliable hardworking etc turns out to be the opposite of all of those I have to question my judgement.

He''s walked out on us out of the blue, spent all our money, borrowed against the heavily mortgaged house, not earned any money but lived like a king and is now expecting me and the kids to pick up the tab.

Sorry: completely off topic but I am reeling again this evening.

So anyway, I thought he loved me and the children. Like he kept telling us. Chemical imbalance can only go so far in explaining it - how do we account for the rest? I''m going out of my mind trying to rationalise it.

Elixa big hugs, all of what you said gets me. we look for the answers everywhere, but there are none, we can''t find out what happened, no use looking they have done this awful thing, and we just have to deal with it and some how move on, we have a very hard road to travel, but we need to think we are where we are, its awful wrong and should not have happened, but it has, we now have to deal with it. let go if we don''t we are lost. so come on my friend lets try and leave them behind they are not worth any more of our lives we have given them enough, do all you can through the legal system to get what you can, what you are and should be entitled too, but if that does not happen as it should, then I have told my myself and I hope you can too it is what it is. enough. draw a line. from now on the only way is up, lets face it it can''t get worse.

Lets move on, let go of the past find the new you, get healthy, stop trying to find answers, because I don''t think we will get them, embrace our new life ahead its not what we wanted or thought we would be dealing with at this time in our life, but hey ho its happened now lets make the most of it and find some good out of all this pain, you never know what we thought was a good life with our ex may not have been all that great!!! sending you lots of love xxxxxxx

Hxxx