Ex is now pregnant by artificial insemination

I''ve been going through this divorce since November 2013, my ex is being unreasonable and refuses to contribute to the bills to my house.

She lives in the spare bedroom and has been delaying the proceedings on purpose. I now know why, she''s now pregnant and i have accelerated the process by applying to court.

We had a years worth of mediation where my ex lied about her finances. I''ve given her 5 very generous offers that she has flatly refused and she demands unreasonable maintenance demands.

My solicitor cannot understand why she demands so much because my ex has a good job earning 23k a year.

The only way to settle is by going to court so i was wondering how the court is going to see my case with my ex being pregnant by artificial insemination, because im sterile and have been since 1996. The child is definitely not mine because we had fertility tests done in 2012.

We have the decree nici since January 2014.

Did you have sex with her in the relevant window of time? If not, then you know it can''t be yours. If you did have sex, then you can''t know 100%. Either way, you''ll probably need to get a DNA test done to avoid paying child support.

No i did not have sex with her at the relevant time. The child is not mine because I''m sterile and have been since 1996.

You can forgive Haha asking the question though. It did read a little oddly because you would normally just say "We don''t have sex" but anyhow.

Has your wife told you this was artificial insemination rather than through the traditional method with someone unknown to you?

Either way the child will not be of the marriage so will not be your responsibility. Your ex''s housing needs will change if she is pregnant but without knowing what else if going on financially it is near impossible to predict what actual difference this makes.

Is your sperm stored anywhere?

I know it is unlikely to have been stored successfully for 20 years but in the past if you have tried fertility treatment you may have done so and signed a Consent Order for it to be used.

Sorry if it sounds like a strange question but you seem to be very certain your wife is pregnant by AI and not the traditional method which would seem more likely.

Thank you for your replies, last time we had sex was may 2013, just after i bought my house, by November she was filing for divorce after an expensive holiday. Previously we were renting since 2006.

My sperm isn''t stored anywhere, i had the choice before i had chemo in 1996 but i refused.

I knew she was going abroad for AI but she hasn''t told me this.

I earn twice her salary but she is working and there are no other children involved.

What i really want to know is has my situation got worse by her being pregnant? Will the court frown on her making her situation worse?

She has not done anything illegal so the court *shouldn''t* frown on her but I daresay there are probably judges who wouldn''t approve of her life choices.

If she has been really wanting a child and might now get one then perhaps if you try and be happy for her she might calm down with the unreasonable demands and you can both sort this out before the child arrives?