STBX hiding money from CSA - advice please

my stbx admitted in April to the CSA that he has £250K in savings.

Conveniently now however he has just remembered that he apparently borrowed £100K from his Dad when we moved to the FMH, thus leaving him with "only" £150K with which he will rehouse himself.

If any such loan existed, I was not made aware of it (and would never have agreed to it). My stbx told me that he got the £100K needed to move from our old house to here (to enable us to keep the same sized mortgage) from his savings.

Consequently he has been told that he doesn't have to pay any child maintenance (he doesn't work or claim benefits, he's a lazy git!).

How is it fair for him to have all those savings, for me to be in debt, for us to struggle to keep our heads above water and for him not to pay child maintenance.

he told the CSA that I will have to ask him if I want child maintenance but give that he is a manipulative, intimidating and controlling bully, I'm not about to beg him to provide for his children.

I never thought I'd be bitter about all this and struggle to keep my emotions under control but he has done everything he can to hide his money.

I have no answer for you - but am in similar position re lack of maintenance - my ex has told csa he doesn't work or get benefits and that his parents keep him!!

What actually happens is he works on the family farm gets paid in cash up to 300 pound a week gets a free house and nothing is declared so as offically on paper his parents keep him so offically he has to pay no maint.

I work 2 jobs to make sure the kids don't go with out and am paying off the marital debt (for the next 10 years) otherwise i end up bankrupt as its all in my name - how do these men end up so bitter and twisted? And why do they think they don't have to support the children they made a concious decision to have??

I look at my ex now and do not know him at all and that is very scarey.

So no real help but can rant with you instead

Rant away - no worries.

I am sure there are men who are bitter and twisted about the women too

Ultimately I just don't think its fair that he ges away with it.

in fact, he isn't going to. The CSA have just informed me that they are going to launch an investigation (which will proceed to a criminal one if necessary) against my stbx and his Father for fraudulant activities.

Bitter sweet revenge, i know, but all he had to do was to provide for his kids, rather than line his own coffers.

Do you have an update on this please?

Hi JB

The CSA asked for proof of this £100K loan and statements etc were produced showing transactions between him and his parents. However I believe, In fact I know, that my stbx has savings in his parents name.

He also made an appeal against the whole of the amount £250K being used in the CSA calculations for maintenance. This hearing is not expected to be heard before March 2011 so he is having to pay the proper amount of maintenance.

The reason the CSA gave for using the whole figure in their calculations (even though £100K has gone) is that my stbx stated that, on one hand that he is using the money to buy a house for himself, however he has also used this money to repay a loan (namely £100K) and he also stated that he is using this money to live on considering he is redundant and hasnt worked for 2 years.

The CSA said that he is trying to have his cake and eat it!!!

I hope to have more of an update in March.

Good luck with your own situation

Mumsty

...and me too!
Ex claims he doesnt work nor claims any benefits and is supported by his Mrs (who just happens to be office manager of the 2 companies he's director of!) and he pays no maintenance.
CSA been doing criminal compliance investigation for 2 years...he was called in for an interview in October but I've heard nothing yet.
Surprisingly after his interview he told me he was going bankrupt...dont know what to believe but he left me and the kids 3 years ago, owns another 6 bed house, holidays several times a year abroad, they own new cars etc...amazing!...yet the CSA see through it.
Lou xx

Fortunately I've got a brilliant case worker at the CSA who has also given me advice on what course of action to take next.

He said that, when my stbx buys a house etc I can appeal on the grounds that he is seemingly funding a lifestyle not consistant with his claimed income.

Maybe this is the route that you could take too??

The only thing I can conclude in him trying to not provide suitable maintenance is that he sees that paying it is him giving me money!! Granted, the maintenance money goes into the pot for bills etc but ultimately it still feeds, heats and clothes his children!!