Consent order Compliance VS Maintenance

I am right Mobiman cos it is what my ex is now going to do for our son when he is off to uni next month.

Son is very impressed with the amount he has been promised! It is simply the money that my ex will no longer be giving me now that son is 18 and off to uni for 7 months of the year.

Now do you think I will be able to persuade the building society that my mortgage should be reduced as there is one less person living here????!!!!!

I'm sorry Blackie, that isn't correct. Your circumstances are different because your son is going into higher education. In Mobiman's case his son is continuing "non-advanced" education which is a different ball game.

If a Consent Order has been in place for one year it is open to either parent to apply to the CSA for assessment, the CSA notifies the court and the consent order in relation to child maintenance ceases to have any effect.

A parent with the majority of care for a child is able to claim child support for a child up until the age of nineteen through the CSA if the child is continuing non advanced education. See;

www.csa.gov.uk/en/case/leaving-education.asp

Hi

I don't understand what your problem is. You are getting the equity from the house. Isn't that the main thing?

As regards your son, as he is continuing on in further education, it ends on his 19th birthday and is only 15% of your net income, which is not huge really is it?

My daughters are not interested in seeing their father and Im sure he will say that I "poisoned" them against him, but that is far from the case.
I would like nothing more than our daughters to have a relationship with their father. In fact I think it is very important that a child should have a relationship with their father, but inthe past year every time one of the girls talked to their father, all he did was say bad things about me, which of course they did not like.

If your son is 18, you have been a good father and paid maintenance towards him, what is the problem?

My problem sillywoman, is the deceit. Yes I have my equity which I have used to finally re-house myself. I also have a budget which doesn't include making payments to fraudsters on someone else's terms.

I know how you feel. My ex was a lier throughout our marriage, but somehow I always wanted to see the best of him and think better of him.

Decent people, like you and I want to see the best in people, especially people we are associated with.

Just accept your ex is the way she is and pay the 15% to her for your son. It is for your son and whatever happens in life, you know you did the best.

Your son needs you, you are his dad, why not try and get back in touch and get a relationship going with him? I don't know what mum is like and the reason for your breakup, but she is history, your son is your future, go for it!

Fiona

Interesting. I have recently had a consent order signed by the judge that states what the CM is and gives amounts and dates.
How does that fit if my oldest now chooses to do a resit, but not at school or college? Am I correct that the consent order cannot be changed for 12 months by the CSA?

Canute

Mobiman
Is there an issue about
1. Cash going to your x, rather than your son?
2. That the CSA ignore housing costs, just relying upon net income?

Canute