do i have to move or sell the house

hi my wife wants us to separate i dont do i have to move out of my house

No, you don't have to move out.

hi thank you i need some help
i am married with 2 kids my wife said she wants to seperate and divorce is she right in saying that if we both agree to divorce we can sraight away i dont want also i said i would move out for 6 months what are my finacial obligations

Hi Dave,
Yes, I know how it feels, as do a lot of people on here, male and female.

Your wife wants a seperation / divorce.
You need to decide - if you can - what you want.

No, you don't have to leave the house if it's in both of your names. You are as entitled to be there as she is. Some people tough it out and stay. Some leave and prefer the peaceful life in rented accomodation, but of course that will cost you. Also, later if you apply for a loan etc, one of the questions they normally ask is how long you have been at an address.

If you have a mortgage in your name, you have a contract with the lender. It will do you no good to stop paying it, as it will give you a bad credit rating and affect future loans / mortgage applications.

You obviously have an obligation to support the children. If you look on the CSA website, there is a calculator, which will give you an idea of what your payments for child maintenance are likely to be. It's relative to your income.

Even a quick divorce with both people agreeing takes time. There are lots of websites on the internet which will give you details of what reasons you can use to get a divorce and the timescales. But it is not a quick process.

This site has lots of information about many aspects of divorce and is well worth browsing.

Good luck
Anthony

thank you its all very raw for me i think i need to speak to someone i no the five facts to get a divorce my wife knows the 6 month rule she said its my word against hers and a incident that happened a year a go she would say it happenened a month a go what happens then

Dave,
Unfortunately you have to be realistic.

If some wants a divorce / seperation they will find the grounds to so do. Not a lot you can do about it.

When events happened or if indeed they did happen is not really the issue. She can say they did. And if that's not enough, she can find more until it is enough.

I can only suggest to you that you tell her how you feel and take a step back and let her think about it.

But if she really wants a divorce, she will find the grounds and you will have to go through the procedures like everyone else.

Sorry,
Anthony

dave
the truth is a divorce is easy to start rolling she can put just about anything down as unreasonable behaviour and if you say its lies their will just ask her if shes telling the truth, she says yes and does not have to prove it unless you want it to cost you a fortune and she still gets the divorce, thats how it works in this country, your best bet is to try and make sure its an amicable divorce for the kids as it will be them that suffer.

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