Spousal maintenance

My partner's been separated for nearly 3 years (not divorced or even started divorce procedures)I think both are too scared to initiate the divorce?

For the first year of their separation his wife has worked part-time but for the last 2 years full time.

The house has been sold and the money sorted although they still have the money sitting in a joint account. (Alarm bells!)

Basically, the wife has become pregnant with her boyfriend - my question is what if she gives up her full time job -will my boyfriend have to pay spousal maintenance? They youngest son is 12 years old.

thanks
girlie

Hi Girlie

You know.... the more questions you ask, the more I wonder what YOU get out of this relationship?

Shezi

SM depends on the needs of the recipient and the ability of the payer to pay and without details of the finances it's difficult to say if it is a factor. In any event if the wife is cohabiting and having another man's child it is highly unlikely there will be any SM, except perhaps a nominal amount, say £10 a year.

Shezi,

Why do you say that?

Do you think im asking too many questions?

Girlie

His wife does not live with her boyfriend. She lives in rented accomodation with their 3 children. 21, 18 and 12
thanks

Girlie

I understand what shezi means and that there seems to be a lot of doubt in your relationship and future that we glean from the questions you post up. It's not meant as a negative but more as a thought to think about whether you are getting what you want out of the relationship or is it more all about him and his ex and what they want?

If you're not getting what you want then may be it's time to move forward and start putting you first either with or without him.

Another thought that crossed my mind yesterday with your other thread, and i hate to be the one who asks but i'm nothing if not honest about things.

Is this new baby definately the ex's boyfriends? Particularly in view of the comments that the boyfriends left?

T

nbm - your last paragraph did cross my mind? but if this was the case and it was my boyfriends like you are implicating - why dont my boyfriend not take this opportunity and go back to his wife - they are still married - so no problem for them.