1st time here, need guidance

Hello,
basically 22 years married, 3 children, 2 left home 1 at home 15 years of age. I am male, divorce papers are with the court, wife has admitted adutery. she is openly carrying on with this relationship outside the home. I got a letter off her sol yesterday requesting that I leave the home and find rented accomodation. She is stating intimidation and using our 15 year old son as a pawn, saying she does'nt want to see him upset yet she has already told him she has a boyfriend. I want to buy her out of the property but she's having none of it.
Has anyone experienced the above before, I know the law is stacked in favour of the woman and lower earner but bloody hell this cannot be right to be forcebley removed from the house you've built while she carries on like mother Terresa 1 minute then a total whore the next.
Thanks in advance if anyone takes the time to reply.
Barba

Hi Barba.
Sorry to hear your situation. You are in the right place to vent your rants and find info out.
I hope you get the help you need from here.
First of all, your no. 1 rule, dont act on anything straight away. You do not have to leave the home, it is her that appears to be leaving.
You cannot be removed from the home.

Who is divorcing who on what grounds?

The intimidation is a scare monger, take no notice.
Make sure you take care of yourself and your kids.At the end of the day if you are able to buy her out of the property that may be the best way, as if she stays in the home she will have to buy you out.
Even if you did move out and there was a mesher order put on the house is would only be for a couple of years.
If you look at the thread with the instructions at the top, fill these in and someone will be able to give you a probably outcome.

Dont respond to any sols letters just yet.

These guys on here will need to each of your incomes, equity in the house etc etc.

Whilst ever you stay in the home if you pay the bills mortgage etc you obviously dont get involved with CM, but if you do move out into rented, you would need to pay CM based on 15% of your net pay. Nothing more. Can she pay the mortgage etc? probablyintends moving her new man in, how different will life be then??

S

Cheers for that Plati, I'm divorcing her on the grounds of adultery, to which she's admitted, but does'nt want to pay the costs, she's on legal aid/help. there is only 1 child involved and he's 15. Not sure what thread you mean at the top?
Barba

Hi, if you look on the other thread topics and post under finances or property fill in these bits with your question..


If you would like advice as to what the likely outcome of a financial case on the dissolution of a marriage is going to be you need to post the following information:

Your respective ages;

The number of children you have and their ages;

How many nights the children spend with each parent;

The length of your marriage and any period of pre marriage cohabitation;

Your respective incomes;

Your respective outgoings;

Your assets - both soley held and joint;

Your liabilities.

Without this information the answer to "What am I going to get" cannot be given.


If you fill that in in the relevant thread you will get some answers.
But feel free to post general questions too, but people will learn about your situation and be able to help you.

Hi Barba,

there must be something in the air. My wife of 16yrs (been together 18yrs) left me and my two boy's recently, we never saw it coming although in hindsight all the signs were there.

We have been on the floor for months but I eventually got myself together and lessons learnt so far include:

1. Stay in the house.
2. Take care of your boy.
3. Take care of yourself.
4. Get a good lawyer/solicitor and pick a women!
5. Cut off all contact.
6. Do not allow her to come back into the house whils the affair is on-going.
7. Be strong - my wife played us for months but lied and cheated.
8. Divorce her quickly. I just told my wife I am divorcing her and she has exploded.
9. Keep your family close.
10. Keep working.

Feel free to send me a message.
Regards
Brunswick

Welcome to Wikivorce Barba

If you complete the information bobbinalong put up and post it, we will be able to give you some advice.

Shezi

After 25 years with this woman i feel like shit. She's openly flaunting this affair saying "well we are divorcing, so what its now nothing to do with you. Then goes out with new boyfriend all day, sometimes stays over, then comes back says nothing and goes to sleep in next bedroom to me. Then does the mother terresa bit with our boy, but openly telling him she has a boyfriend. Her sol has asked me to leave the family home within 28 days. This is really doing my head in having to bite my tongue and walk on eggshells. Is this unreasonable behaviour on her part?
cheers, bsrba