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Thanks guys...

Going to get an appointment with Citizens advice to see how they advise me to handle things...

Then next step would be a lawyer I guess...

Now just want to get away as soon as possible but at the same time protect everything I have worked so hard all my life to build up...

I have said on a few occassions over past 9 months that I wanted to seperate, firstly only partially meaning it in the hope that it would spur my STBX into repairing the damage done...But she just buries head in the sand and I'm sure she thought I would never leave and just acts as if nothing has happened...

Right now things are amicable but I'm sure she is sensing something is imminent...She is being ultra nice but still can't bring herself to mention the affair or say SORRY etc...and In any case it is now too late for that...

So how do people who have left marital home make the break???

We have mortgage in joint names but do not have joint bank accounts?

I have always lived within my means, i.e. If we cant afford it we don't get it...But recently I found evidence of loans taken out by my STBX without my consent or knowledge and it turns my stomach to think that I could end up liable for these things...

Cheers

AutumnSong wrote:

Thanks guys...

Going to get an appointment with Citizens advice to see how they advise me to handle things...

Then next step would be a lawyer I guess...

Now just want to get away as soon as possible but at the same time protect everything I have worked so hard all my life to build up...

I have said on a few occassions over past 9 months that I wanted to seperate, firstly only partially meaning it in the hope that it would spur my STBX into repairing the damage done...But she just buries head in the sand and I'm sure she thought I would never leave and just acts as if nothing has happened...

Right now things are amicable but I'm sure she is sensing something is imminent...She is being ultra nice but still can't bring herself to mention the affair or say SORRY etc...and In any case it is now too late for that...

So how do people who have left marital home make the break???

We have mortgage in joint names but do not have joint bank accounts?

I have always lived within my means, i.e. If we cant afford it we don't get it...But recently I found evidence of loans taken out by my STBX without my consent or knowledge and it turns my stomach to think that I could end up liable for these things...

Cheers

Hello

I did the leaving. At the moment I am in a shared flat which actually isn't as bad as it sounds. I am a professional woman and am sharing with other professionals.
I am still paying my half of the mortgage, house insurances, critical life cover, also a loan for my car as well as contributing towards my youngest university costs.
I do have another job as well to make ends meet.

How did I go? I told him I was leaving, got this place and went...
that easy.. only of course it wasn't.
There is no way I would ever stop paying the mortgage until he either buys me out or we sell.
I own half that house - I want half that house....