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Hi All,
Thought I'd introduce myself, thanks x

Hi Lili

Welcome to Wiki

Where you are betrayed and your other half commits adultery, there is so much to deal with. The emotions can sometimes play havoc with your life, and the worry about how the children are coping, and the finances can make things seem so hopeless. There is light at the end of the tunnel. You will find you can get lots of support and help on here, as well as practical advice about finances and general moving on.

I found out about my wifes affair 2 years ago, whilst we were on a family holiday. We had been married for 18 years. She moved out of the marital home and I was working full time and trying my best to be there for the kids and it was hard. It made worse for me by being made redundant in the middle of it all too.....Now though I have a new partner, a new job, the marital home has been sold and I am hoping to move into my own place soon, the children are still on track and have not gone off on teenage benders, and I have just had my absolute through.

Take care

S

Hi Lilinet

I was married for 18 years before my ex moved in with new woman a year ago. We had lived together 13 years before that so it was quite tough adjusting to being alone.

Our elder son finished his GCSEs just before ex moved out and he reacted by leaving schoool and doing very little since apart from some odd jobs. He is slowly becoming more relaxed though.

Younger son 15 now seems exactly the same on the surface, though he has expressed a lot of anger about his Dad.

They are embarrassed about what he has done and are aware that ex is spending far more time with ow's young children than with them.

the first 7 months were the worst, I had weekly counselling and was on antidepressants.

Now I am rebuilding my life slowly and have managed to stay civil and calm when I inadvertently met ex's ow.

Pop into chat to talk to others who know what you are going through.

Nell

Hello all Im new to this site. Have this week applied for divorce. grounds - my Husbands drinking and nasty behaviour to me and to our beautiful 15 year old daughter.

I told him to leave - its just been one time too many. We just recently passed our 25th wedding anniversary.

I have felt so bloody angry but i am not expressing it. Just saying things under my breath all the time. I have kept a very clinical response to my ex's rantings.
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He has calmed down a bit now and took Amy for a drive last night. He was stuttering and looked so pathetic. I just felt so sad. I took dog for walk and just sobbed all the way. It felt so painful, but I know it is the right decision.

Daughter been very stressed by it all and missed school for a week as she was really ill. She is still catching up on exams now.

I know I've just got to keep my head down and keep pushing for the final outcome. Thankfully he has gone away to his sisters in Devon for a week so I can relax in the house. Havent been able to as scared of him turning up all the time.

Think this is a great site. Hope to get to know some of you over the forthcoming weeks.

I need to be able to talk to somebody who can understand what I am going thru. I hope that I can be of some help too.

Lots of love to all x

Hi Loramy,

I'm from the East Midlands too, welcome to the site.
Everyone here is lovely and can offer support and sound advice.
My stbx has also been away all week with his g/f, but I can't relax cause I don't know when he's coming back, it's awful!
Mouseygirl x

Hi thanks r message. Yes great site. Feel for you if you dont know when stbx coming back. It puts you on edge doesnt it.
My daughter is so much happier without my husband aroun. He used to always be competing with her for attention. I feel so much happier now I have stood up for myself and made the decision to split up. Hope to get to know you over the coming weeks and to be of some help. Best wishes