Sister suicidal over husband's affair

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My sister has lost all interest in life since her husband said he is having an affair. She feels she has failed in everything and I want to help her but don't know how. There are no children, a 10 year marriage, together for 15 years.
Any advice Please!

My advice would be to get her a doctors appointment as soon as you can. Some councelling and maybe some anto depressants might help her to get over the most hurtful stages of this. Keep her company as much as you can, let her lean on you and try to get her thru the days one at a time

Is she up to joining this forum herself? It helped me out a lot in the early stages to know that there were other people going thru the same situaions and emotions as me. Maybe it will do he some good to talk things over withpeople who can relate to her problems

You're being a good brother tho, well done to you. At least she has someone in her life she can rely on

Also meant to say stay calm and don't forget to look afdter yourself while all this is going on. Thoughts of suicide are not uncommon as a reaction to what has happened to your sister, she is now going through a grieving process. But things do get better over time. Hold her thru the worst of it and she should come thru it all soon

unfortunatly she has spent 15 yrs of her life on a complete liar and moron

perfectly understandable that she feels like ending it,

all i can suggest is that you keep a close eye on her for the next couple of months...probably up to at least a year

if she can stay with you all the better

the above advice regd meds seems reasonable, normally i recommend against them however given her state any side effects are outweighed by the risk of not taking them

the problem is going to be ...long lonely nights esp as winter happens

the quicker she talks to someone who has been through the same and survived the better

all the best

Hi

I left my lying, cheating, narcisstic husband 3 years ago after 22 years. I had no choice but to divorce him after what he had told me and I had 3 daughters to consider.

I wanted to die. I used to go to bed each night and pray that I didn't wake up. I saw blackness in the future, darkness, no one would want me. I felt foolish, that I didn't know how my husband was living his life, I felt betrayed, useless, stupid.

At the time i was 7 stone overweight and a total mess. I had not bothered with myself for years.

Anyway, 3 years down the line and 2 years divorced - I was 49 last week, I have lost all the weight I had gained throughout my marriage, I have my self esteem and confidence back. Life is wonderful and I see my ex husband for what he is an absolute little weazel! ha ha

Your sister is lucky to have you. Tell her to PM me if you wish.

Reassure her she will be fine whatever she decides to do.

Jo x

Your sister has spent her married life doting on a man who was unworthy of her. But she is feeling rejected and worthless because she is still seeing herself through her husband's eyes.

She will feel better eventually, time helps us to see things in a different perspective.

But now she is grieving. Anti-depressants and/or counselling might help.

I cried myself to sleep for weeks and thought it would be lovely not to wake up, but kept going for my sons and my mum.

Its a year since my husband left. I still have down days - who doesn't - but feel much freer now I am in charge of my own destiny.

Your sister has her future in front of her - not the one she thought, but life has a habit of turning out unexpectedly.

Just be with her and do what she wants - talk about it or not.