confussed. lonely.total stressed out

hello
thought things could not get any worse than lose of job.
but it has after 31yrs this year.Icould tell some thinking was borthering her, i know she been seeing someone else as i found aletter she bangin on over having no job an all that but she could not look me in the face.so i ask whats going and who this letters off.first she said nothings going then she says they just talk to each orther for the last 11 months.go for a drink
and a chat but the worse thing is i still love her. she is my world now it is so empty an lonely even with 2 twenty year old kids now after 3 weeks just can not focus on anything. can t sleep ripping the place apart trying to find out how long its been go on checking phone bills emails bank statements I have to stop my self from going though her bags an mobile just to see for my self I DO NOT THINK ANYTHNG COULD HURT AN CONFUSE YOU SO MUCH AS THIS just rambling on now

Oh mate, in time things will get better, where you are it's not nice, you are hurting but there is light, even though it's small there is a small glimmer of light. I also wanted to find out about everything but you will only hurt yourself more, cause I know mate.

So are you out of work? Maybe you should try diverting that negative energy away from where you are and diverting and directing it towards job searching, it helped me focus my mind away from where I was and gave me purpose.

Keep posting, blogging and coming to the wikichat to get help, advice and support

You're not alone here, lots of people are going through this too. Keepposting here, talking about things definately helps

You're not alone here, there are plenty of people who know how you feel

thanks but talking about it just depreessesme more just confused just now

thanks to you all i know deep down it will get better
as i said its three weeks since this started was feeling good after first post.
then things got really bad last night just before she was leaving work an email pops up from him saying he has receaved email
someone using my name but from some one else saying that thay had
seen him and some one who used to work with them
at some bar earlier this week. do not know full content but she says it was not very nice an blames me for it.
throught i was coping well this week .but this has really
knocked me down again all that c**p did not and do not what to do this to you
i just dont beleave that she thinks i would do this its taken ages to post this let alone email him and call her.now i had his phone numbers home an mobile off her phone bills the way i felt i would have done something well before now and most likly been locked up by now:

Hi SoftMick,

I really feel for you as I am going through a very difficult situation at the moment.

After 18 yrs together my wife left me and my two boy's (13 and 15) at Xmas without warning. Her behaviour since then has been unbelievable and hurtful. She has almost moved in next door to us with the guy she is having an affair with!

Be strong and do not chase around looking for evidence. I have done all of the things you are doing right now and whilst this is difficult stop - it will kill you as it almost literally did to me.

She is gone. Take each day at a time and please beleive that it does get "very" slowly better. I am evidence of that, but it is so hard and you have my understanding and support. Contact me at anytime.

Brunswick.