Does it get any better

Hi Lonely,
Hang on in there, lots of support here for you. x

Thanks Lilibet. Sad that you're inlaws have cut you out. My stbx sister is one of my closest friends and we go to shows and weekends away together. We were at a show on Sunday which was fantastic then stayed over with her and her husband. Their daughter and grandaughter came over to see me too whilst I was there. We've always been close. They have no contact with him at all. They have a large house and my mother and father in law live there too. His mum is an alcoholic and as far as he's concerned the sun shines out of his backside. His dad doesn't speak to him unless he has to. I adore his father and he is gutted at what has happened but he's 80 this year and doesn't say too much. He cried with me the first time I saw him and told me how much he adored me. Stbx took OW to the house within six weeks of leaving and his mother was having a right old chin wag with her as if I never existed. My sister and brother in law were not happy as he hadn't even asked them if it was ok to take her there and it is their house. My niece was going to lamp her one if she had got out of the car. She decided against getting out when she saw the reaction. Didn't stop him taking her there again the following week. My sister in law was not there and she was not happy. When I told my daughter she sent him a text message telling him to have a bit more respect for us and his own family. He has been nowhere near there since. My brother in law says that his name is not even mentioned. They're disgusted with him and think that he needs to grow up. They can't believe that he has treated me the way he has. It's his loss! All he has now is the OW and her daughter. No job, no money. Even his friends have disowned him due to what he has also done to them. He's used so many people and then s**t on them that he has lost everthing and everyone. Sad really when I have the support of my friends, his friends, my family and his family too. I sometimes find myself feeling sorry for him but when I remember what he has done to me I soon keep myself in check and realise that everything that has happened to him has been through his own doing and his inability to deal with reality without drink or drugs.