Does it get any better

Hello and welcome

It does get better, it will take time thou.

I've just got divorced after 23 years of marriage so its a new start for me aswell.

Im taking my time thou and not rushing into anything. Ive had a couple of dates with some guy but he wasnt for me even thou he's a great guy and we get on so well, there is just to many problems to overcome and Im not sure whether Im prepared for that, but it was nice whilst it lasted.

So good luck to you and for me for that matter.

Helli

You poor thing...I can totally sympathise...facebook destroyed my life too.
My ex added a friend of a friend who he liked the look of and left me for her after 9.5 yrs with 6 children! They got married yesterday and had a baby 11 months after he left. He has no guilt or shame about what hes done.
At first I thought I would die of grief..my mum told me that things would get better and although I didnt believe her I guess they do, better isn't the right word though..normal is the right word..when you can do normal things and not fall apart.
Take 1 day at a time and congratulate yourself on all the things you do without crying (I cried once in the supermarket while I was packing shopping because of the unfairness I felt Id been dealt when I looked at all the "value" tins).
Hurt like this does not go away overnight..although if someone could invent a pill that made it so they'd be very rich.
At least you have the support of his family which can and will give you some kind of absolution...my in-laws and sister in law have never contacted me or the children since the day my ex walked out.
You're doing well...you need to heal and then move on...and we can all help!
Lou x

In time it gets better, you learn to cope with the emotions that run through your head and also at the same time.

As time passes you will find that you get emotionally stronger and you feel more able to cope each day as they come.

take care

Pheonix

Srange about in laws, I got on well with mine but from the day my husb left I have heard nothing from them. Not even a how are you text or email! They also cut off my eldest completely because she told them what she thought of her Dad. They half heartedly keep in touch with my son and youngest daughter, birthday and Xmas cards. Pretty poor Grandparents who live 20 mins away and have not seen their granddaughter for over 2 years. Are they embarrassed, guilty or just plain cowards who can't face the pain their son has caused and instead just pile on a bit more hurt?
Sorry, ranting!I lost my own Mother 2 years before husb left and she would have crossed continents for her grandchildren, how unfair is life at times?

hurtandsad - ((HUGS))

My x's family also haven't had contact with the kids, in particular my daughter, who was a 'step' but had been raised by him since the age of 3. I find that hard to accept, as does my daughter, AND my son, especially since they were fed the line that 'family is important' from x for so many years. And I question how they decide just exactly who is 'family' - son, who is 'their blood' seems to only matter to them, and even he hasn't received any sort of communication or emotional support. Needless to say, son is not terribly impressed that his dad and family have basically ignored HIS sister. Unbelievable, really. And this from a family that prides itself in its 'family values'. Hmmmm. Yea, right....

Yet more coincidences: my eldest is their stepdtr/grandchild, they have cut off! We had a child each when we met and I raised his son from age 4, my dtr was 5 when we got together. My stepson has always been treated equally in our family. we also had a daughter between us. In laws had plenty to say about husbands first ex, different story now he's done the same!
A friend of mine has same experience. They are no loss! However, NO EXCUSE to cause more hurt than we already have!!! On our firdt xmas we had cards to the whole family, very upsetting, from some of his relatives who hadn't been told of the split!
We ar still one family - we are just without EX now.

thank you to everyone who took time to give me some support. It really is appreciated and makes me feel less lonely!!

Thank you so much

Lonely