Hello all

So true Jackie. My x's change can be tracked exactly to when he chose to get involved with (also cheating) OW. Tried the same BS about how we had been living separate lives (oh, really?? then why were we still sleeping together, etc.?) and he had felt that way for years and bla bla bla. No one that knows him buys it. Not saying everything was perfect (what long term relationship is?) but doubt I'll ever come to terms fully with the fact that he so easily and thoughtlessly threw everything away.

Someone said ages ago, I think on this site but not sure, that 'robbing someone of the ability to trust and love is a staggeringly cruel act'.

I so agree with that!!

And yes, we are left to pick up the pieces whilst they swan off with the replacement. I have to believe it will bite them back sooner or later, but who knows. I just want to get to the place where I couldn't give a monkey's.

In a show of solidarity when this first happened and I was so, so worried and scared at the prospect of old age alone, etc., my son said to me (in his wicked sense of humour) 'Don't worry mum, we'll make sure YOU get into the GOOD home!' It made me laugh through the tears.

Quite unbelievable how someone can literally change overnight. I think someone else said, "who are you and what have you done with my husband??'

That's exactly how I feel.

Yes I totally agree with those comments. I have ben divorced before and five and a half years after he had left he phoned me saying 'it's Ian' and I genuinely said 'Ian who?' He sounded quite shocked!!! Now that IS recovery! Looking forward to getting to that place again!
To everyone living through this nightmare, well done however far you have got and good luck!
PS a friend saw him today and said he looks grumpy, hee, hee!

goldfish saif

"if you ask any questions then you will be blamed for anything that went wrong."

how very very true

and sad,immature and just pathetic

no sense of taking responsibility fort anything....

STBXIsMoneyObsessed wrote:

goldfish saif

"if you ask any questions then you will be blamed for anything that went wrong."

how very very true

and sad,immature and just pathetic

no sense of taking responsibility fort anything....

Sadly this works both ways. Take it from one who has done the leaving.
I have beat myself up so many times over stuff before I left -kept making excuses for why he reacts how he does.
In the end, I ran out of reasons and ran out the door.
Well not literally...