Telling people

When is the right time to start telling people that your spouse has left you! Why do people not understand that it is really hard to even talk about it! The last thing I want to be is playground gossip.
It has been 3 months and I have only just started telling colleagues at work and mums at school. Of course my family and best friends knew straight away but I just didn't feel ready for it to be public knowledge before now. Does anybody else know what I mean?

Hi libra,

IMHO the time and whether you do or not is if and when it feels right for you. Like all idle gossip it is used by those lacking something in their own life to make themselves feel better. Todays headlines is tomorrows fishsupper wrapping.

Elle x

Hi Elle

Couldn't agree more. One nosy mum came round over the holidays to ask me if I knew anyone who had a bed for sale (yeah right) and just dropped into the coversation "oh have you and A split up?" I looked at her and just replied "I don't want to talk about it" and everyday she is gagging to ask me but I just don't go anywhere near her. bloody cheek!

Just tell people when you are ready to - after all what has happened is between you and your x2b - its no one else's business.

I couldnt face telling people for ages, but thanks to the village gossips/grapevine, when I was ready, everyone already knew ........

I was very lucky. I work in a school and my husband left shortly before we finished the summer term.

So I had 6 weeks holiday to cry in private before I told anyone at work. They were all very supportive and still are.

As for everyone else - its up to you. I was pleasantly surprised at how understanding people were - and how many women in my town were in the same situation and only too happy to compare notes!

As for gossip - who cares! We can't control what other people think of us. And the people that matter won't think badly. Those who want to gossip are just lacking any interest in their own lives.

You sound ike your doing good libra...way to go girl !!

Elle x

One of my disgusting neighbours was out in his garden a couple of weeks ago when I went to the FH to see one of my daughters.
I was waiting for my other neighbour to back out of his drive before parking my car.
This odious creep( sorry I really do dislke the man) came over and leant in my open window.
The convo went like this..
Him "hello Love (aghhh I am not your love) how are you?
Me - through gritted teeth "fine thanks "
Him - "where are you living now?"
Me in a short 'bugger off tone' " near where I work"
Him - oh right thats ( names hospital)
Me "yes now if you will excuse me I have to go" ( at this point I just wanted to drive away cos I was so mad).
Him "oh where are you going now?"

Me " I think thats my business don't you?"

Exits with a roar....
lOL he hasn't spoken to me since - I bet he thinks I am a right bi atch!