alone after divorce

Hi

i have had a bad year had a mental breakdown going through a divorce lost my job and my step kids will not get in touch this is the first chirstmas alone i just want to give up on live

just hang in there joe and it will turn around for ya.Had the same 3 years ago lost job of 20 yrs wife was banging someone else lost living with the kids lost me home evberything went within 6 months.Me and 8 bin bags was left.If you don't top yourself you carry on is all I can say.3 byrs on made half a million great bird new house kids love me.
but couldn't have even forseen that back then just knew I had to dig deep to keep going.Hold on to your self belief.
All the best
Pete

Hi Joe, Just hang on in there, you have done the right thing in joining Wiki, and will find lots of support here. Sorry to hear you are going through such a rough time, especially at this time of year.

Things seem very bleak for you now and it will be hard to make sense of anything. Try to eat healthily and get as much sleep as you can. It must be hard not seeing your stepchildren but they will be hurting too and may wish to contact you in time when they feel ready.

Christmas will come and go. Believe me, you are not the only person who is not looking forward to it. It will be very different for many of us this year. I just want to hide away until it's over but will put a brave face on and try to make the best of it.

Probably the last person you want to see is the doctor but it may be a good idea to go and see him/her and say how difficult things are for you at the moment. It can be helpful just to talk things over and take the doctor's advice if there is any medication that may help you through this difficult period.

If you haven't aready had any counselling I would ask for that too. There is usually a waiting list but it is worth considering as it really can help to sort things out in your own mind and start to move on with your life. In the meantime, talk to friends and keep posting on Wiki.

Things will get better, it just takes time. Good luck with looking for a new job. Just look how well Haway has done - It could be you in a couple of years time!

Let us know how you get on. All the best. Chrys

Hey Joe,
As per the other posts. You hang on in there. It seems that there has been a lot going on and I tihnk that you need to look after yourself for a while, as I strongly suspect that once you get that sorted the other pieces might fall into place more easily.

It's going to be tough - but you will find plenty of support here and you should call upon it. Even if it is only to let off steam.

Christmas will be hard - but find friends and family and stay with them.

And go see either a Counsellor or a Doctor if you have not already done so. I have found some counselling to be of immense value. But that's just me.

Take care of yourself is the first priority - even though that will be tough.

Joe

I gave 12 yrs of my life to someone who is now spending xmas with his mistress.I didnt lose my job, but my family are all in another country, so I too am alone.I'v been dreading it too.
I don't know if you are religious at all, if you are, there are surely some festivities you can join in with your church.
Alternatively, if like me you don't feel like celebrating xmas at all.....get some good take away the night before, get some good dvd's which you are dying to see.Its gonna be cold....just stay indoors, make yourself comfy and have a lie in with some good movies.Don't bother to watch telly as I fear all the xmassy stuff will just make one feel worse.Its just 24hrs to get thru, most of which could easily be slept thru.
I too have have had my moments where I no longer wanted to be part of this living earth.then I thought about how that would destroy my family....and I realise that the loser I spent 12 yrs with, is MOST DEFINITELY not worth causing my family all that pain and grief.If you feel like you need to reach out and chat to somene, there is always the samaritans.
I no longer fear xmas...i'v just been thru the announcement of the Decree Nisi in court and also my first wedding anniversary since we officially split.....compared to what I felt those days....I can definitely get through xmas......and so can you.
Be strong mate.
lovelorn
x

Hi JOESUKI, ditto on what all above me have posted and welcome to wiki. Just remember mate, you're not entirely alone. You'll always have great support from your fellow wiki users who know exactly what you're going through.
Cheers

Hi Joe

Just a quick hello, hope you are doing okay.

Be strong, and take care of yourself. Don't forget there are ots of people here who can offer you support so do keep posting.

Chrys