alone after divorce

Joe

When I first divorced, I was 27, I had 2 babies, no home, no job, no income. I didn't know what to do and I didn't know how to survive. I parented my children singly for 15 years then remarried. I'm now going through my second divorce.

Tomorrow, I am having a 50th birthday party and life is good.

If I can do that and survive, doing well... you can too.

Hang in there honey - let it turn around. Life throws a few curve balls at you (well, ok, sometimes more than a few!) but you get where you need to be in the end...

Take care of you - and for the rest... just keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Shezi

Im 50 next year and can honestly say that I will be as happy as anything.

Not so young, free and single, would love to meet Mr Right, but if he never enters my life, who cares, I don't.

Life can be a bit of a devil, but we learn from it, even when we want to just give up and die, the fact that we don't and survive gives us a greater strength of character.

Hang in there!

Jo x

Hi Joe

I know exactly how you feel, my ex left after 23 years of marriage and I ended up really ill with depression and attempted suicide on four occasions. I thought my world had ended but with time and help I came through it and I am told by family and friends I have come off the better of the two. I went to Marriage Care for counselling and it was the start of getting better. It is run by the catholic church but you don't have to be catholic or religious to go. Google it and you will find your nearest one. My doctor was also brilliant and helped me through with medication which put me on a level so I didn't have the real lows. Christmas for me is horrendous even after six years and this year I am going away with my children, my ex left on New Year's Eve.
I am 51 and would love another life partner, but if he doesn't come I am still having a great time. I do voluntary work which I started to get me out of the house and I also went to uni which was great. I felt totally worthless as my ex left for a girl 21 years younger than him and I was blamed for him going off with her. I now know it was not my fault and I am looking forward to my future.
There is life after divorce but it is a slow process and you need to heal yourself and learn to love and put yourself first. If you have other family try to get their help too.
Good luck my friend

Hi Joe,

You are really downbeat right now but there will be better times, there really will, and when life is nice to you again you will so enjoy it after going through such pain. On Xmas day, when you have your favorite dvd, favorite food and drinks, listen to your favorite music, think about how many of us will be doing the same thing. You can try self help book, I have found some of them very helpful through this period, (I recommand "change your life in 7days" - even though it will take more than 7 days...) At the moment I read a book about vipassana medidation, that really helps find some kind of peace and serenity when you feel your world is crumbling.

Cheers,

Amoco