What men/women do that make you scream

How is it that when a man points out some inconsequential oversight on his dear wife's part, (e.g. leaving car with no petrol in it AGAIN), women seem able to launch into a tirade of every misdeed the man has ever committed since the dawn of time, quoting date, time, clothes worn, prevailing weather conditions, witnesses etc etc.....

Sadly, most men don't remember what they had for breakfast, so they could honestly not say whether this cticism was justified or not!

And when our dear ladies decide that they want something, they manage to magically turn ANY conversation around to one of the myriad of benefits of getting that thing that they so desperately NEED.... (Because xyz has one...)

Oh, and the 'New?, this old thing? Nooooooooooo I bought it last year in the sales.....' B*ll***t!

'Well I NEEDED shoes to match it....'

Will shut up now before I get a Molotov cocktail in a Monsoon bag....

Mike

That's cheered my morning Mike lol! We do have elephant memories (when they suit) and naturally a woman is useless at shopping - because no matter how often they do it, they never have anything to wear
No petrol in the car gets my goat too - as does finding that the last biscuit has been eaten and no-one told me, or the last teabag, or the last loo roll you know what I mean!
Keep it coming, I promise no molotov cocktails - and if in fear - feel free to pm me!

Hey loobyloo - perfect stuff - and how will you deal with it next time! I completely agree that the little things are precisely what so often flip our lids! What fascinates me is that at the beginning these things are often overlooked and even endearing and we can make a rod for our own backs by not being clear in the messages we give! Plus, as it's not these annoying things which really matter - it's actually what they do to us - they can be indicators of not feeling loved, being used, lack of respect, no understanding etc etc and that's what we have to learn to communicate.

what really gets on my nerves is that as equal partner in a bussiness that we set up together but more on my strength and which he always complained that I cared more about than the family when it comes to divorcing he sees it as his own and I am the minor party in it ,have to depend on his hand out.A family business is always taken as a husband's possession and even when you drive a nice car it is taken that it has been provided for you by your husband,this is assumed by both males and females

why men like my x during divorce proceedings can blatantly lie that his confrontational aggressive behaviour, outbursts and threats never happened but if I had said or even not said something then it did happen because he said so.
Where is the sense in that.
It makes a mockery of his vows taken in church years ago.If only I knew then what I know now I wouldnt be in this mess after 34 years of marriage.There would never have been a marriage.

I’m not so sure that what I feel in tending to loose patience with things comes under the umbrella of what makes me scream.

I know I have mostly always been tolerant of people, how they do and say things. In my work within E.O.D I found it gave me a great appreciation of every ones quirks. I learnt through listening that laughter can made up through fear, bravadery, hysterics or genuine and that you don’t have to speak Queens English to be the most reliable and trustworthy person around.

I tend to think that really my changes came around very slowly after 1980 when my X started to drink very heavily, I now find myself intolerant of anyone drinking to the state of not knowing the difference between their a*se and their elbows.

I no longer tolerate or believe in the words “I’m sorry dear it won’t happen again “ “I was drunk I didn’t know what I was doing” “its not you its me”… how many times have we all heard those. I hear anyone mutter those eternal words I usually give quite a loud hissing sound and give a look of “Oh ye right” *ick *ead or *lapper so I suppose they come under what makes me I scream when I hear or read them.

How do I feel about all our problems? I just wish I was a night in shining armour vanquishing the living nightmares in all our lives.

Hope this has been of some help

I don't think there is anything about women that makes me scream (well, except in pleasure!). However, I have a short and selective memory which I am sure can be infuriating to others.

I get the impression that a lot of men suffer from this sort of memory loss, whether it is remembering they are meeting mates down the pub and completely forgetting that because it is bucketing down outside their other half might appreciate a lift back from the hairdresser, but I don't know if it is a gender-trait.

I get infuriated by stupid, little things that are of no consequence, I know this and yet continue to get worked up by it; eg pictures of journalists next to their piece in a newspaper - why are they there FOR GOD'S SAKE!!!!

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