How do you all cope with the really bad days?

Linda,
Think of the community here as rent-a-hug.

We have all been through or are going through one of the worst emotional experiences of our lives. It is akin to bereavement.

My eldest is going through his GCSE's too and I also understand the issues with teenage children and marital difficulties, as do many here.

We all pull together and help each other through these times. We are all at different stages, but the common bond is that we know how awful it feels.

Stick with us and ask for help - lots of it here.

Mike

Friends are the answer (or family). I didnt know quite how many good friends I had until the sh1t hit the fan and they all came out of the woodwork in support. Dont know what Id do without them now. Ive had a big shock today and my mobile phone is hot from calls from people offering support and help or just to simply say "Im here if you need me". It means a lot.

Failing that here is a great place to vent, be sad and happy about life. You will find lots of support

I'm still a newbie Linda, as my journey to divorce started in Feb. Last weekend, I celebrated the fact I had 6 'good' days in a row!
This site has been a godsend to me-I don't often go into 'chat', but looking aroud the site, reading posts and blogs of other people who relate to what I am going through and feeling, is wonderful.
I have many supportive friends, and a fantastic family, but I am sure they don't want to hear about my ups and downs continually. My blog allows me to vent my spleen :laugh:The posts allow me to ask questions that I can't ask anyone else.
You will see that this is a period of bereavement and you are grieving. The turmoil of emotions you feel will be individual to yourself, but recognised by all your wiki friends.
This is a haven for virtual hugs!
Take care

Is your husband also my husband? Mine works in China, is cheating and earning and spending a pot of money?

Hi Linda
like you we all feel sad at the start of it all. My eldest started grammar school in September, Lost his favourite Grandad (my Dad) to a heart attack in October and saw his mum and dad part company in December!
Gordon Bennett kids are tougher than we think and mine have helped me come to terms with a lot of what has happened. At the start it is all bad and day by day things do get better. In January I felt more like a hedghog - staying in all the time and only going to work and the Supermarket. June arrives and here I am going out to birthday celebrations and looking at fresh avenues of interest that doesnt involve ex wives and solicitors.

Walking works a lot for me especially on sunny days - I just walk and enjoy the scenery no thinking about anything is allowed!!!!!!
Finding this site was a blessing for me personally - you are not alone and everyone is so supportive. We might all be at different stages but from others' experiences we are able to cope better and look to the future knowing that in time all will be better if we make it so.

Best of luck with all you face in the future and keep smiling

Dad2812

Dear Linda

I know exactly how you must feel. I have a few good days and when I have time to reflect on things then it all goes downhill. All I wanted to do last week was hide under the duvet but with 2 active kids I wasn't under the duvet for long. They and friends keep me going. Try to plan a few nice things every couple of days, it could be as simple as watching a favourite DVD one evening. Sometimes though as my counsellor said to me last week, you may need these down days as time for yourself to greive for your loss. So long as you don't dwell on it for too long a period it does you no harm. Take care

#linda - nice surname

listen to sad songs - loose yourself in the emotions - feel them so you know in the future you wont let any one make u feel like this again! at some point the pain becomes dull and your life takes on a new meaning - a new you - a stronger you who copes with the previous pain -

at the end of the day it is YOU that counts...

peter.