Uselessness

wumpy..talk to us please..

hi wumpy

welcome to wiki, dont beat yourself up when your feeling up to it come into the chat room for a cuppa and a moan with the rest of us.

What you are feeling is perfectly normal and we have all been there and are at that stage at some point

You will aways find someone on wiki to chat too.

Take Care

JJxxxx:kiss:

hi my first message to everyone and not very good with all this tech have simply been reading other peoples contributons unsure how and if I can express everything I feel or if it could help me

that was until i read uselessness have not stopped crying (but in a good way)hope this keyboard is earthed correctly

Realise not on my own but not sure if doing this computor stuff right

Hi Bud
Welcome to Wiki
You are doing absolutly fine with the computer. A lot of people here have never been in a forum and start out like you.

Why dont you introduce yourself with a new thread

its easy, just logg in and on the Introduce yourself site open one.. have a look..


and then take it from there

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hi chuck, i also am new to this.
we all start out really wanting to blame our other half for everything, then we blame ourselves.
this is really normal. its also part of the healing process. by being able to look at ourselves in a true light, and this is very hard,we surely wont make the same mistakes again.
i still put emotions into everything to do with ex,trying not to,but not perfect.
have not posted much, but often read the posts, it really helps.
you sure are not alone.x

Hi folks, Hanna here, I'm in the mire at the moment full of mixed emotions about everything going on. husband of 24 years gone to other woman, kids 22 and 21 gutted. I'm not sorry he's gone, but upset etc etc about the way he's going about everyting, been lying for years to all of us and I think settlement is going to get messy which means costly I suppose. can't seem to stop thinking about thinks which are going to torture me, but suppose that's natural. don't like people telling lies, I am just a simple honest straight forward person and realise I've allowed him to put me down for years and the kids saw that too, why couldn't I have seen it at the time?
am worried about finances etc, that's only natural too.
not sure how the chat room works, tried it a couple of times but gave up when everyoone else seems to know each other. won't give up though.
i'm worth more than what's happened to me, and will survive.
someone told me a bereavement is easier to get over than lies, deceit and betrayal. I don't know if that's true, but I've a pain inside I've not known since my dad died when i was 11 and im 50 now.
hope this rings a bell with someone out there, feeling very low today. Hannah X:(

Wumpy. Yes I agree with the other post which says you care. Maybe this is a common thread. I can always remember my x and i having a conversation. I said to her 'I hate what you are doing to your life' (she was making a complete hash of it) What I do now is my business was the reply. She never cared. My marriage was probably a sham. I felt used. As the dust setles your options become clearer . This site gives me great strength and answers the questions i cant ask a solicitor because I cant afford to do so. Sometime in the future things will settle and I will come out fighting. Then god help her.!!!!