Still in shock, and it hurts

shadow wrote:

I am also feeling guilty for burdening people on here with my woes, when you each have your own pain to deal with.

Shadow I was on Wiki early with first coffee; I saw Zara here too and just e-mailed her this:

Sometimes I find my own answers; sometimes I just feel a great sense of comfort that I’m not alone in all this, and sometimes I’m just so bored that I spend hours communicating just for the hell sake of feeling connected! (Sat alone here; no one else to talk to!)

It explains why I'm here, and when you're ready; you too might find yourself helping someone further down the line. The legal system does not deal with the emotional issues; so this sight is indeed very supportive. You're not burdening me!

Shadow - as everyone else has said, we are all here for you. Its sad to think of so many people feeling so full of despair at he same time - but it does show that life goes on and people do get through it. I am still at the stage of how/why/if only and it does rip you apart - looking for answers to a problem our other half has caused!!! Its awful having your life taken from you - but at least another life is out there for the taking (albeit it it hards thinking anything will be as good again!!)

Keep posting and be strong

Mockingbird

Shadow

I was married for just 8 years, with my ex for a total of 15 I think. In my mind I left her at least a 1000 times, went over the details whilst I lay in bed, next to her, what my life would be like if I no longer had to live under the shadow of our hollow marriage. I hated her, more than anyone on this planet, by the time we eventually agreed to split. At which time my ex and I made time to explain to each other, just why we had to split, basically we made each other misserable, I blamed her for every thing in my life that I didnt like, and she felt the same about me.

The reason I am saying this, is that unless this is completely out of the blue, you would have known that all was not rosey in your relationship, and secondly because you owe it to each other to at least talk about why you are where you are, even if reconciliation is not on the agenda.

This is the start of a long and difficult path, which will test you, be as strong as you can be, we will be here for you....

GM