Feeling awful

Hi Ann

I agree that it seems he is still trying to control you via your son. As everyone has said it is his responsibility to maintain a good relationship with his son not yours. Don't let him get to you like this.

I have a different situation in that my stbx is working abroad and hasn't seen my 16 year old son for three months now - last spoke to him two months ago and even though I made a point of subtly reminding him a couple of weeks ago via E Mail that our son's results were due on 21st - the miserable excuse of a father hasn't even bothered to call, e mail or text him to find out how he has done. My son is devestated and very angry - a friend of his had not done too well and his father (parents separated) was calling him to try and sort out what they could do regarding poor results and my son commented to his friend 'don't moan - at least your Dad gives a stuff'.
Bearing in mind my son took his GCSE's a month after us discovering his Dad was seeing a 28-year old woman and was going through absolute hell you would think this man would have the decency to pretend to care about his son's education.

As people on here know I was very low last week but this has been the final straw for me and has made me realise this man who was a devoted father to my two children has turned into a selfish, self-obsessed a**e!

Sorry didn't mean to turn this into a rant about my stbx but can identify with your situation - when this first happened I was bending over backwards to make my stbx look like he was still a caring father but it gradually over time dawned on me that it wasn't up to me to do this. Anyway kids aren't stupid and your son will see what your husband is doing.

Hope things work out for him and he gets sorted for September - I know how stressful it is.

Take care

Linda

Ann just want to give you big ((((hugs)))) and to tell you to keep strong, hope tomorrows a better day for you & everyone else here,
Cindy