Feeling awful

The thing that really concerns me is that he came in your bedroom. That is your space and should be absloutely out of bounds. he is showing a distinct lack of respect and I think that if he continues then he should not come in the house.


I think that the GCSE results thing is tricky. Teenage boys need a lot of understanding and and my s2bx (good Dad) found this hard, so I often had to mediate to maintain relationship. I would naturally prefer the s2bx dead (!) but if not, I am glad that the boys do have a good relationship with him now as it helps the boys. However, it is easy for me to say that as s2bx has always been good Dad and we were married at the time.
Getting your son to text results is a good idea if he will!
Good luck with evrything x

tell him you will drop a photocopy in the post if its ok with son control regained,the waiting will do him good.

Ann.
He is succeeding very well in doing what he sets out to do- Make you feel bad and guilty .The only way to deal with these is playing deaf.Indefference speaks volumes.
I still think you should not rush into divorce .
Get your confidence back and your emotions more stable first.
Take care

Thank you all for your responses.

Son doesn't want to "waste" credit, ie use it for anything other than contacting mates.

Ex is concerned that son won't get into 6th Form.

Ex is probably also being influenced by other woman who is school careers counsellor (though not at son's school now, she did interview son last year, before she got together with ex).

Ex has just phoned with update. Son has appointment to collect results from 6th form teacher tomorrow at 3. Call me paranoid, but this doesn't sound good to me. If it was Ok, his results would surely just be left in envelope in office to pick up?

I'm not going to rush into divorce proceedings. I need to get my head sorted first. I am seeing a women's counsellor but have missed last 3 weeks as first I was on holiday and then she was, so lots to catch up on.

Hi Ann

I am sure that your ex has your son's mobile phone number, why does he not phone HIM on that. He is just making silly excuses so that you are at his beck and call.

Hope your Son's results are OK, I am sure it is nothing to worry about. Let us all know how it goes.

zara

God knows! Ex has always used me like this. "tell w to..." or "make sure D does..."

i say you tell w you make sure D does!

If you can't I'm sure I can't!

Thanks for your support. I will keep you posted.

I just wish I only had to concern myself with ex and sorting out our separation OR only with teenage son and lack of carerr options. But both at once does seem hard, especially when I am feeling very midlife crisis myself!