It's a roller coaster and I want to get off!!

The devastation you are in will get much much better. It will get worse on occasions and you need to be strong for your children but you know that but these will become less and less.
I left my X last Nov and all has been a roller coaster too even re-concilation was a set up arghh!!!. BUT I was told something by a friend who had gone thru the same stuff. It's all the same stuff just diff story but only in a slight way. She said right well the next few months years could be a real scary place in your head but hold that thought. Be strong and write off the next year. You will go from high to low in a sec and have great days , Even better ones too along with this comes crap ones but that is life. Learn from the experience and grow stronger.

I am now 10 months into the day I said I did not love my wife. Mine was from the bullying but every story has a root cause.

What I will say is that what ever happens you will move on, you will be happy again. Focus on what you want and not cling to! I made the mistake of clinging on to the past but the future is hapier and if honest for me a relaxing place.

Be Strong

The devastation you are in will get much much better. It will get worse on occasions and you need to be strong for your children but you know that but these will become less and less.
I left my X last Nov and all has been a roller coaster too even re-concilation was a set up arghh!!!. BUT I was told something by a friend who had gone thru the same stuff. It's all the same stuff just diff story but only in a slight way. She said right well the next few months years could be a real scary place in your head but hold that thought. Be strong and write off the next year. You will go from high to low in a sec and have great days , Even better ones too along with this comes crap ones but that is life. Learn from the experience and grow stronger.

I am now 10 months into the day I said I did not love my wife. Mine was from the bullying but every story has a root cause.

What I will say is that what ever happens you will move on, you will be happy again. Focus on what you want and not cling to! I made the mistake of clinging on to the past but the future is hapier and if honest for me a relaxing place.

Be Strong

The devastation you are in will get much much better. It will get worse on occasions and you need to be strong for your children but you know that but these will become less and less.
I left my X last Nov and all has been a roller coaster too even re-concilation was a set up arghh!!!. BUT I was told something by a friend who had gone thru the same stuff. It's all the same stuff just diff story but only in a slight way. She said right well the next few months years could be a real scary place in your head but hold that thought. Be strong and write off the next year. You will go from high to low in a sec and have great days , Even better ones too along with this comes crap ones but that is life. Learn from the experience and grow stronger.

I am now 10 months into the day I said I did not love my wife. Mine was from the bullying but every story has a root cause.

What I will say is that what ever happens you will move on, you will be happy again. Focus on what you want and not cling to! I made the mistake of clinging on to the past but the future is hapier and if honest for me a relaxing place.

Be Strong

Hi Wheretostart, welcome to Wikki, the best place for you to be right now. I'm so sorry your husband is putting you & the kids through this, how could he do this to you all, you must be so shocked, angry & upset, to say the least! He is being very very selfish & not thinking of any of you at all, especially to reduce your income & leave you in a rented house to cope with all of this? Do you have family or friends to help & support you, to talk to etc? Have you thought about a solicitor yet?
My heart goes out to you, keep watching this thread as you will get lots of support here soon, we are here for you, stay strong for the kids sake, they need you more than ever right now,
Cindy

wheretostart, what a nightmare for you and your children and I am so glad that you have found this site so soon. I cannot help but think that he planned to sell the house before telling you he was leaving and is acting in a carefully planned and manipulative way. Unbelievable cruelty. I can only reiterate what others have said- protect yourself- you are quite right in that he is months ahead of you emotionally which leaves you vulnerable. Get lots of professional advice and ask questions.

On the emotional front, use your friends, they will keep you sane.