hello everyone and help me

Hi Billy, you need to respect her wishes for time alone then, you tried to go talk to her but seems she wants you both to think about whats happened. Thats good that you offered her to vent her anger in writing & to try to be honest when you look at it! I hope she gives you another chance cos i believe you are trying hard to make up for your mistakes. I guess she wants to believe it too or she wouldnt be in touch so much.
Good luck & keep in touch
Cindy

had realy bad day today
the thoughts of going to see her have kept me going for the last 12 days...now i have nothing to cling onto and face another 11 days in limbo hell

really hit me very hard, been in floods since 6am this morning, and getting very desperate and just cant cope with anything..i am a total mess..and i am getting worse as each hour passes...never been like this in my life..its even worse then when my mum died.

Don know how im gonna make it through the night let alone go to work tomorrow.

billy

Hi Billy,

Sounds like you are going through hell, and like you are very serious about turning your self around.

Your wife says she wants space, and as hard as it is for you to give this to her, you need to allow her that space.

Tell her that you respect her request even if it is so hard to give it , make sure she knows that you want to be with her, acknowledge your past but dont dwell on it look forward, and be there for her, when she is ready too talk.

Dont do anything whilst she is away, that could cause her to worry about you and be as strong as you can,

Good luck

GM

Hi Billy, your marriage isnt over yet so hang on in there, just give her time alone to think things through & use the time you have left alone to make good changes for yourself, show her that you mean what you say.
She is keeping in touch so its a good sign, she doesnt hate you & thats something to work on later ok?
Cindy

true cindy but i seem to have hit the lowest point and every min is an hour..every hour a day...every day a year

she needs her time but the words
"you kept me waiting just a little bit too long"
keep rattling round my head

got to find some strength....

just home its better in the morning

billy

Hi Billy, i can understand how you're feeling, you have to try to not dwell on it or you will make yourself really ill. Try to get into the TV, read a book, do a bit of DIY or gardening, anything to stop you thinking so much!!! Try not to just focus on that sentence....it doesnt mean its the most important thing she said, or that it means its all over, not yet.
If your wife gets back with you it will be because you've changed into a better person, she wont want to come back to a complete wreck ok?
Stay strong, keep active, go for walks in the fresh air, just stop torturing yourself!!!!
We're here for you ok?
Cindy

Billy,

Welcome to Wiki and sorry to hear about your situation.

One of the things I did was to go to counselling - we went both together and apart. This both helps to identify the issues between you and may help both of you to find out why you are where you are. I am sure you think you know this, but sometimes there are underlying or perception issues - I know I read things completely different from my other half - it was a guy thing. I also found out a lot about myself

I also read 'Men are from Mars .....' and wished I had done so years ago - I got a lot from this book in terms of understanding my OH.

Best wishes for whatever you decide

Dadsrus