Can't do this anymore

Well said!

Thank you thank you thank you everyone - jolly Rocket - i ahve been to the website ... had intended to get an early night .... I can't believe what I am reading .... it is him.

I called him a workshy parasite according to his sol ...... parasite and narcissist is the same thing. Gets something, stops getting what he wants and moves on.

I was his third fiance - i met him when I was on a real low ... he wanted to marry me on the second date ... I idolised him .... he has a fear of death which I bleive resulted from not being able to express his feelings with his mum and dad ... can't trust people .... never wanted a second child because he couldn't see he could bond with it ... has told me he doesn't like our second child so much becasue they are not so affectionate and adoring .... he is leaving me because I treated him with contempt ... the teacher has come out of a divorce and is the same doormat I was when I married him and he was meeting with her before he decided to leave me ... that he treats his parents like shit because he doesn't need them ... that he drove me away from my friends and family ....the blame for the marriage breakdown is mine in that I couldn't make him happy ....it is him all over.

So this tells me that he will drop his children in the same way he did me and the previous 2 nearly wives when he doesn't get what he wants. Does anyone know if CAFCASS know of these terms and what can I provide them in terms of evidence to say this is him .... alarm bells!!!!

I realised mine had a narcisstic disorder when i started looking it all up

i think this is common in abusers especially emotional/verbal ones - but it does lead to physical abuse - which you have dealt with - do not diminish it because he told you it was not big!!

am going to bed soon but PM or re post tomorrow and I will be in touch,

please please please beleive in that bit of your heart that knows you are right because you are!!!

feel better that he is the one that has the severe problem - you have to find your own way beleiving and knowing that this blame is not your fault- gain strength from this and sleep well and get stronger - you can - and he knows it - thatis why he is afraid - you are better stronger and a more whole person than he can ever be - know this ( I think you do underneath - well I hope so)

keep strong amigo

xxx joxxx