ok ok it was me

yep got to admit it I met someone else after 24yrs of marriage and fell in love now Im paying for it"Big Style" after many years of begging my wife to let me go I eventually did when my youngest reached 16 and then left school. as anticipated the children were turned against me, hardly children they are 27,23 and 16 but still my childern and allways will be. now we are in the throws of financial arguments, i simply want 50/50 split following me paying for the mortgage and maintenance for another 2 years until the youngest son leaves full time education, then when my ex finds someone else or decides to move on we can then discusss at that point. but no wuife is fighting for all assets. anyone else going through the turmoil and wil;l she get everything some say she will get 70% gulp of all assets even if I do pay for everything for the next 2 years. oh i did admit to adultry.

Hi pcarl

1 thing i have found out since being on this site is that 50/50 does'nt exist, depending on all your factors as you have'nt given details the split could be 70/30.

You admitting adultery will not have any affect on the outcome.

Hi there

If you read this:

www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Forum/...G-IN-THIS-FORUM.html

and post those details, the wiki peeps will try to help you as best they can.

Amanda

many thanks for replying

I can't see why a 70/30 split is possible with a 27, 23 and 16 year old child. What does the 27 and 23 year old have to do with it.
I am fighting, and I stress fighting, to get a better deal than 50/50 with my ex and there is a 12 and a 9 year old involved.
I would be as happy as the proverbial pig in s**t with 60/40 let alone 70/30.
Why on earth are my ex's solicitors going alone with the notion that a non resident parent should get 50% AND maintenance. What has the world come to.

Kevin

In some cases ok majority of the time it is the men who are the bread winners they have pensions , a career etc... a person who has stayed at home raising kids has had no career and has been unable to contribute to a pension all these factors are taken into account for what is deemed fair.

Btw i'am a PWC i would like a little bit more than a fiver a week for the 2 kids , i don't have no house etc.. just a fiver

Angel. This is where the system falls down. Some men (and lets be fair it is usualy men) dont like to pay for there kids and usualy its the woman that has PC. And these men that dont pay are allowed to get away with it. On the other hand there some women that have affairs behave badly and the man looses everything. Home, family, pension and a large amount of money and has to start again when they should be reaping the rewards of a lifetime of loyal service. It seems so very very wrong that these 2 situations are allowed to take place and the law cant and wont do anything about it. C