My Solicitor says i can do nothing!!

I left my wife 3 years ago, she has made life very difficult i dont see my daughters or grandchildren anymore because she has poisoned them and they wont listen to my side, but i accept that they are adults and can think for themselves, i have spent a fortune in fees, my wife left her job to get legal aid, which she has. I have signed a form in october agreeing she can have the house, since then i have had no reply, her solicitor says she has missed 3 appointments to discuss this and she cant make her attend, i disagree i think she should lose her legal aid its tax payers money and she is abusing it, i have agreed to everything im still paying mortgage all i want is a divorce, solicitor says my hands are tied until she agrees to finances i cant divorce her, if i do divorce her then i am still going to have mortgage for next 5 years until its paid off, i am paying another mortgage with my new partner i cant afford to keep paying 2, she is alone in a 4 bedroom house, no kids at home, no job, yet she can afford to run a car keep a great dane dog and have holidays, im tearing my hair out, nobody wants to help me, all they want is money, what can i do? im in danger of loosing my partner and i wouldnt blame her!!

secretsquirrell wrote:

alone in a 4 bedroom house,

If there are no kids at home; this four bed house exceeds her needs. In any court hearing; it would probably be ordered to sell, or for her to buy you out.

Do NOT be signing it over to her.

Of course she does nothing!!! She's sitting there parked up with you paying.

If there is not an agreed Consent Order; then you can change your mind re: agreeing to give her the house.

You can get lots of advice here; stop wasting your money with the sols if she's not responding.

Stop paying the mortgage, and she'll contact you soon enough.

Sera
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You need to answer the questions that divorce lawyer posted:(follow link)

www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Forum/...G-IN-THIS-FORUM.html

Wiki users can then advise a likely settlement.

If you don't end this matter now; your ex can come back at any time to claim more. If you died - she'd be a legal next-of-kin and I'm sure your new partner does not want your ex getting your share of your new home.

It needs to be dealt with, and if she won't play ball, and is using extended litigation tactics; then you can go to court and apply for your costs against her. (This doesn't always happen, but you have the right to ask) So keep copies of all sols correspondence; and copies of all their bills.

I echo everything sera says....and I would be tearing out the sol or the x's hair not my own!

I cant afford to go to court sol says it will cost 600 and could take up to 4 months with no good outcome at the end, i darnt stop paying mortgage i will lose my house too, i have already agreed she can have house signed papers, but she wont do anything with it, i dont care if she is getting best deal, just want her out of our life.

Hi there,

Of course she will not do anything with it, she has it all at the moment, she does not need to do anything. And trust me she will NOT unless you take extreme steps.

It is probably her intention to 'sit it out' for the next five years, so that she can make your life just that little bit harder, and your new gf will get pissed off and leave you. Seen it all before, been there, done that and have the t-shirt.

You watch how she WILL do something the minute you state that you are not going to pay the mortgage. She will soon buck her ideas up, as dont forget she will be losing out too, not just you. She is hoping that you will feel obliged to keep paying, just show her, you mean business.

It is the only way, having just been through 2 years of hell with my husband's ex wife, I cannot tell you any more than you need to take immediate and extreme action to get their ar**s moving. (they had been divorced 3 years before I met him, but hey, she still did her best.

Anyway, why dont you put all your details down as Sera said and just see how this could pan out for you. Give the number at the top of the page a call and book a free half hour. Many on here are self-repping and are doing a brilliant job with the help of wiki members.

If you do not do something drastic just expect to still be in the same position as you are now in two years time.

good luck, get tough it is the only way

zara

Hi
Sorry to hear its been such a long haul.
No offence intended here to all you fab solicitors out there but perhaps you need to change yours. Sometimes a different take on the situation may help.
Take care x