Rock and a hard place - any advice?

Hi Mezzie.

I appreciate your frank response. However, as others have stated, my concern really is for him, and the fact that he is desperately trying to maintain some sort of relationship with his children. He isn't divorcing them.
And just for the record, I did choose my bed and I am very happy to lay in it. If I was afraid of that, then I wouldn't have joined the forum.

Lil ol' methinks sometimes the way in which a post in phrased may have alot of bearing on the response which is recieved.

But,never mind that. The statistics do say that if a couple are livng together for 4 years or more before marriage it is basically 'a sticking plaster'. It will not work. Something shocking like less than a 5% chance that it will.

Sd was with her husband for 7 years before they tied the knot. Not good. Sd's husband seems to be more than happy for their marriage to be coming to an end.

The marriage of sd's partner is the opposite in every way.

I would not want to be in the position of sd at this moment in time.