recently separated (not married) - lots of issues

Sorry should have been more clear, it is via the library on the 'married or not' website link.

No not married either.

Bevs

Oh pants .

Same Qs to you then that I asked the OP.

Amanda

Amanda

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In addition to my 90K deposit, I also sold 30K of Shares to buy a car, furniture, cover our shortfall whilst I was on maternity leave etc.

He had 20K debts on credit cards which he cleared from sale of his own property.

I gave up a very well paid job to enable him to further his career in Shanghai. Now left with no job, two small children to look after and trying to get myself back to UK with no assistance from him.

He is up to his eyeballs in debt again (sole name) and living with another woman after leaving me at Xmas.

I pretty much guess what you are going to say...I am an idiot.

Why do solicitors not mention the declaration of trust when co-habiting partners are buying together? It was not something I was aware of at the time, in fact only just heard about it from this site.

Bevs x

Bevs....

Slightly confused.. you mention a 90k deposit, but say you contributed equally... can you clarify please?
Amanda

Sorry I thought the 'contributed equally' meant after the purchase. My apologies.

On purchase I paid 90K deposit, he paid nil.

Mtge was paid equally as we both paid into an account which all the bills were paid from.

Bevs

Hi

Not for me to call you an idiot hun... you are not the first person to be stuffed royally by a partner, and you won't be the last.

I am afraid that without an agreement regarding the deposit or a declaration, it is a 50:50 job, unless he is in a moral mood.

Regarding the other contributions... there is nothing you can do about them in cohab cases, sorry.

You can try to keep hold of the house while your little one is young via Schedule 1 of the Children Act, but I wouldn't hold your breath.

And re the conveyancer advising about a declaration, it is my understanding they have a duty to, so you may want to take advice about that.

Amanda

Thanks Amanda. Not what I wanted to hear, but oh well....