Please help

Hi,
My life was shattered a month ago. There was a knock on the door, it was the police claiming my Internet address had been identified for downloading indecent images of children. I am a male primary teacher and was aghast. They found thousands of images on the home PC. Basically my wife set me up, people will find it hard to believe but she in an alcoholic depressive who is abusive and very controlling when it comes to finances. For example, we split two years and she moved everything into her own name, when we reconciled I signed a form to convert back to joint savings but have found out she never sent it off..I always let her control the finances.
She lost her job a year ago, spiralled into depression and I had switched careers and trained as a teacher and got a fantastic job. All through my training and teaching never ever did anyone express concerns over inappropriate behaviour and we also have a healthy, normal daughter ourselves. Our relationship deteriorated over this last year because of her drinking and depression and she wanted to use thousands and thousands to set up her own business and I wasn't happy.
My crime solicitor has already established a lot of what was downloaded was on times I was physically away from house and she was there. However, because she used my logon on PC as we have no secrets it was all stored in my name. The police arrested me, she claimed I was a threat so bail is I cannot go to house. She has cancelled credit cards, moved joint savings to her own name and the joint account has run dry. I was sacked because it was an independent school who took a risk with less than a years employment they could get away with it and parents wouldnt find out. I have a small isa which is running dry, I live in my car a lot to save money. I have found out since this happened she has been spending nearly ten thousand pounds from joint assets on setting her business up.
She has hidden all the money and I am rapidly running out and at my wits end. I was devastated by the loss of my job and what has happened and admit I went into a drunken haze for about two weeks. My solicitor is not very good, won't do anything until they get the marriage certificate from the registry because she refuses to provide it to them. I need some advice and guidance from anyone who has been through a similar experience, i.e. being thrown out and their partner quickly moving all assets. I am at my wits end, I even slashed my wrists a week ago and spent time in hospital. I have started to get stronger but feel so frustrated she is controlling all our assets, my lawyer seems not to care and I am living hand to mouth most days. Please can anyone suggest what I should be asking my solicitor to do regarding getting access to some of the assets from a 17 year marriage so I can rent a decent place and start to put my life back together.
Thank you kindly.

Hi there

Your solicitor can injunct all the assets without issuing a petition, providing they give the court an undrtaking that they will issue as soon as they are able to do so. At the same time they can get some funds released to you providing of course that there are some funds remaining.

You need a better lawyer, and quickly... you can't carry on living like this.

Amanda

PS

I you want to come into the chat room now, I can talk you through it... link is on the left of the community page.

Amanda

Hi Hope

I am so sorry to hear your situation. It sounds terrible! One immediate piece of advice is not to give up! A friend of a friend was going through some domestic violence allegations (falsely!) He fought for several months and successfully cleared his name and is now rebuilding his life.

I am not a legal expert, but the fact that it has been identified that you where not physically there when a lot of the images were downloaded must stand you on good stead, although I suspect it will take some time for this to be relevant at a trial?

I also guess that since downloading child porn is an offence the fact that you can prove you didn't do it will mean that the investigation will not stop but switch to your wife so she is very unlikely to help! You may be able to get some leverage on her by informing her of this fact.

Sorry I cannot be of much practical help but I am sure others on this site will have more knowledge and be able to help

Good luck

S

Amanda thank you so much for this kindness. It has actually reduced me to tears. I will come to the chat room but need to get to a pub or somewhere where I can charge my laptop as I was in a wifi cafe and my battery is almost dead. I pray you will still be here then. Thank you so much

I will wait for you hun. See you shortly.

Amanda

Amanda,
Thanks for the brief. sorry keep getting wi fi disconnected. Can you e-mail me with all your advice. Thank you so much.