The post I never wanted to make

as you guessed she said it was no good as we don't talk to each other , so why should it be any different with a stranger. Knowing what I do now it seems her mind has been made up.

We both avoid conflict, now we as far as long silences.

The other night we barely spoke, I subsequently found out she had been on IM with the OM for four hours straight.

The lies , the lies are the worst.

I love my daughter to bits and can't comprehend being without her. Until the last few weeks I felt the same about my wife.

I try to think about other things, but nothing else seems important right now.

hurting

I know exactly where you're coming from - it's the lies that are the worst, and not being with your children every day - but it does get better (I'm 6 months down the line today in fact)

keep posting and take care - there is a lot of good advice here

dd

Hi hurting

I know how you feel buddy. The lies and the betrayal are horrible. As you've already heard, a lot of people here have been thru your situation. Take comfort from the fact that the vast majority of relationships started as affairs DO NOT LAST. There may be a way back for your relationship is that's what both of you want if/when this other relationship falls apart once the novelty wears off. Otherwise, Keep coming to wiki to talk, try to eat and sleep as much as possible and try to spend time with your friends as much as you can

Take care

Sun

I know the empty feeling you have. Its like a kick in the nuts and you feel totaly crushed. I still remember those feelings. I dont think this ever goes away and for me I never want to feel like this again. But you will feel better in time. It does get better honest. But these people that cheat and dispose of us by cheating on us have no idea of the damage they cause. Thats a fact. C

Marshy, you are so right. They have not a clue what physocological damage is being done, my stbx certainly doesn't.
My head is just filled with thoughts that are none too pleasant.

The pain of betrayal is unbearable at times and we go through a rollercoaster of emotions. You deserve to be treated better. There are lots of people on here that have been lied to and betrayed; myself included. You are not alone. Sending you my warmest thoughts hun and a big hug.
x

All the very best my friend. This happened to me about 14months ago.It crushes you both physically and emotionally. You must seek help and reliance from your friends family and your gp. I did this and it was only these people that kept me from going mad that is for sure.You become nervous about every one and dont trust people. But I have to say things do get better even if your relationship with your ex does not. Focus on your child as much as you can and dont get into slanging matches. It has taken me a long time to get where I am now and I am only 70% of where I want to be. Now you will have more time do the things that you always wanted to like some sport as I did this and began to forget things as your mind is taken off what you are thinking about.Now 14months on I have met someone as you will one day and things will look much better than they are now. Take on day at a time and dont be scared to have really down days but in time these get fewer and fewer and the ups get more and more.
All the best and remember keep talking