Online Dating - She''s Way Out of My League!?!!

NoWhereToTurnl wrote:

My elderly neighbour got caught in an online scam, model photo''s and all the rest.

Taking it to the next level, ask for her land-line telephone number and spend time chatting, that will show you what is what. Don''t accept a mobile number, it might be one that costs a fortune. I only ever give my mobile number to true and trusted friends.

Best wishes and good luck, hope it works out, oh and by the way, some females like men with face/chest hair

I''ll try to speak to her over the next week.

jslgb wrote:

Or is it a sign of someone who isnt who they claim to be trying too hard? Dont get me wrong i have used internet dating myself before but i have always stuck with my gut instincts and i think the fact that your here asking shows what yours are!!

She says she''s a cook. She''s said nothing about modelling. So maybe she''s a model masquerading as a cook!?!?! She asked about my family first then sent the photos.

Girls have made an effort with me in the past and I never pick up the signs until it''s too late so I don''t trust my gut instincts when it comes to women at all! I''ll proceed with caution.

On the other hand....

Maybe you''re overthinking it? If you''re interested, ask her out on a date and take it from there. In my experience, the longer you leave it, the longer those insecure expectations have time to gather themselves and the more important It becomes.

In my view, a first date is something to make something of an effort for (we want to present ourselves in the best light) but not a proposal of marriage. It''s an opportunity to have a look at our date and decide if s/he is someone we would like to see again. Worst case? We want to; s/he doesn''t. No big deal. The more time we spend building expectations, the more risk of disappointment.

This is the problem of internet dating, too much opportunity to build a penpal style email relationship. Take her to dinner, talk to her, decide if you like her enough to ask her on a second date. If you do, hope she wants to also. If she doesn''t.... end of.

Bloody internet dating... when I was young....

Shezi

I don''t think her sharing pics of herself is suspicious - she''s just sharing, some folk are very comfortable with that.

I don''t think you need to proceed with caution, just don''t get disappointed if/when you meet he''s a 6 foot trucker called Stuart who wears nappies at the weekend.

Seriously, the thing is - enjoy it. Don''t put her on a pedestal as an ideal. If/when you meet she''ll have flaws (we all do) and I know more than most, that some camera angles are more flattering than others, so she may be a little less ''model'' in the flesh - but so what? - worst case is she is Stuart and you get a ride home in an arctic

If she''s had bad experiences she may have low confidence or low self esteem. I have an utterly gorgeous friend who has been badly treated by guys in the past and she won''t hear of how attractive she is

Go for it, chat and meet up - please keep us updated.

PS - no-one would kick Brad Pitt out of bed because he has a beard, there''s nowt wrong with a bit of facial hair!

be a little cautious. But two things, maybe. Women dont normally send too many photos. I think when I met my gf, she only sent one or two.
You need to step up to the next level. If she puts you off then the alrms might styart ringing, if you cant get past trying to make two arrangemnets and she has excuses, forget it.
Still be cautious anyhow, anyone would be in any situation.
She might be an illigel immigrant looking for a sugar daddy, so if she comes on really strong and needs somewhere to sleep on the second date, then again...walk on.
However I hope if she has been insecure about men and your a new person I wish you all the best

I wouldn''t kick Brad Pitt out of bed even if he had a nappy on:silly:

LG xXx

Firstly, facial hair. Go on to instagram and search on the hash tag beardporn - nothing creepy, just lots of men with beards who are more than well aware of the affect a little facial hair can have on a lady.

Secondly, please arrange a date with her. As someone else mentionned, watch Catfish. There''s the movie and the guy from the movie now does a TV series helping other people meet their online dates.

Online dating is great for meeting people (so my friends tell me-not quite there yet myself). Or at least it is if you actually meet them. You can spend days, weeks, months investing in a friendship/relationship online, but face to face gives you a lot more answers than you''ll ever get from one side of a keyboard.