To claim or not to claim... Any thoughts

Part of me says make her pay too... Would she jack her job? I am not sure, but being self employed I don't expect to get much anyhow, she has in the past proved very good at hiding finances... Funny how someone with earnings below the payment level for NI at times and recieving housing benefit and legal aid can have a family Alfa Romeo and an Aprilia RSVR Factory motorcycle.

You are right, I am in no hurry for the money, nor am I that affected by her not paying, I just felt it would be right/good for my eldest to have something from his mum as well.

Both boys will have the same when they turn 18, we will make sure of that either way. Right now both my parents and my partner make contributions to both boys evenly as do I, that won't change.

Cheers

Dave

Can you work out roughly what CSA payment would be?

Give her a choice either pay an agreed amount voluntarily or pay the full amount via CSA. It's her decision then.

It is only right that both parents contribute something to their children both financially and in terms of their time and affection.

If she can't give the same amount of these things as you then that is fine but she should contribute something.

You wouldn't dream of saying you can give your son all the love and affection he needs so his mother shouldn't see him. Why then say you have enough money so she shouldn't contribute financially?

If form continues as I would expect, the CSA calculation is going to come back at the minimum of £5 per week based on figures she is likely to present.

From what little I can estimate of her earnings given my knowledge of the industry she works in and the hours she appears to be working whenever she mentions it I would expect a real figure to be closer to £25 - £30 a week plus.

Thanks Again

Dave

£5 a week is still £260 a year. for the next 12 years? = £3k.......do it!do it! do it!

WhiteRose wrote:

Nocash, just want to check if the OP was female and the NRP was male - would your answer be the same?

WR

my answer would be the same if it was a three legged gorilla with flatulance problem .

evrey break up is diffrent an theres no hard an fast rules as to wether its a male or female that suffers more is there ?

only people that think males should be made to suffer are the csa.

nocash wrote:

WhiteRose wrote:

Nocash, just want to check if the OP was female and the NRP was male - would your answer be the same?

WR

my answer would be the same if it was a three legged gorilla with flatulance problem .

evrey break up is diffrent an theres no hard an fast rules as to wether its a male or female that suffers more is there ?

only people that think males should be made to suffer are the csa.

By 'suffer' I'm assuming you mean - 'Financially providing for your children'

People do suffer in a break up, what shouldn't happen is bring the children - the innocents in to it.

Regardless of what has happened between 2 people during the break up - the NRP should make a financial contribution (no matter how small) to the upbringing of their child.

This isn't about Adults 'Suffering' or who suffers more men or women - its about making sure the child(ren) are looked after financially (as well as emotionally)

Parents can often make the mistake of thinking its about 'them' when its not.

WR

you seem to have money on youre mind dear ?

being seperated from a child is suffering,


haveing your way of life as you know it destroyed by someones ego is suffering,

an having an ex pour salt on the wounds any way he/she can is suffering.


its not about MONEY.

if it was just about money when it came to break ups wouldnt life be better.