University Fees

The way I see it is that uni is a choice, a privilige and not a right. If me and my ex had stayed together there was no way we could fund any of my 3 going to uni, except provide housing for them whilst they did so..they would have been expected to apply the same way as everyone else has to. for loans and grants. I fully intend on providing that same support to all of my children, providing a place to live rent free whilst they study, but I have no funds to contribute anything further, the divorce hasnt changed anything in that respect. The OP hasnt said whether he was ever in a place to contribute financially or not even if the divorce never happened and I think that may be key.
If his SM now keeps a roof over his ''adult childs'' head then surley that is a contribution, or am I missing something?

eyes on, i think you are not missing anything, I think its a good point.

Taking this back to selfish basics. When my ex succeeded in getting me out of the home, she then kept calling me back to do little jobs, shampoo carept, fix curtain tie back, this light wont work, that door wont shut right. Hang on, I am the wonderful engineer she has had on hand for 6 years in a house that was mine for 20, and after deciding she doesnt want me anymore, still wants my money oh and my handiman services... soon stopped the handiman service, its called cake and eating it.
The mother should have been putting funds aside and funding the uni, yes maybe dad could contribute some towards books, living etc, but this is being selfish and greedy whatever the morals are.
Mum and dad are in seperate lives and desitions are not be discussed with dad, just final notices.

Mick I dont know what you are supposed to reply to the sol? if at all, I surely wouldnt instruct a sol myself in this case, just keep writing the same letter back.
''My curcumstances have changed based on reduction in CSA because of daughters age have invested in property, have not been in the discussion at to what daughter is doing. Will contribute on an ad hoc basis and that is my best offer....