Unreasonable behaviours reasons - Is this ok?

Hi all, would like to say thanks for all your help so far, very much appreciated!

I am hoping to submit my papers next week, and wanted to put my reasons on here to check them with other people....please tell me if they are suitable/appropriate, with the correct language etc...
I have more if necessary, but i thought 4 would be ok? Is the order ok?

1. The Respondant was frequently verbally and mentally abusive towards the Petitioner. The Petitioner was unable to cope with this behaviour and felt unable to cope, and had to visit the GP. The petitioner felt very depressed and found living with this intolerable.

2. The respondant reguarly abused illegal drugs. THe petitioner repeatedly requested that the respondant not continue with this, this was however ignored. This caused constant unresolved arguments and on one accasion the respondant told the petitioner that drugs were more important to him than their marriage. The petitioner felt extremely hurt and rejected by this, and cannot be expected to live with this behaviour.

3. The respondant spent most evenings on the computer watching sport or videos with headphones in. Showing no interest in interacting or spending free time with the petitioner. The petitioner felt lonely and isolated within the marriage and excluded from the respondants life.

4. The petitioner and respondant have lived seperately since February 2010. The petitioner tried to repair the marriage but the respondant showed no interest in their marraige or committing further to it. The petitioner felt rejected and abandoned.

Thanks for reading!!
N

Hi

Before example number one, put in "The marriage has irrevocably broken down"

you actually need about 5 or 6 reasons - so you will need to write another example of the respondent's UB.

then end with "Due to the behaviour of the respondent, the Petitioner feels the respondent no longer wishes to make the marriage work. As such the petitioner should be no longer to have to live with the respondent."

The problem with no 2 is it speaks of a criminal act - perhaps edit out the stuff about drugs and use "engaged in activities that the petitioner didn't not agree with, and continued to do so, despite please that the respondent stopped"

Thanks ruby. Am I not allowed to mention criminal activity? It's the truth us I think it's a perfect example of why I can't be married to him!!!
N

Hi
I think you need to be careful accusing someone of criminal acts, you could substitute the words 'illegal drug abuse' for 'substance abuse', that covers a whole multitude of things, alcohol, solvents, legal highs, as well as Class A/B/C drugs.

You can use things like

"The Respondant has refused to take any part in household duties, all of which have been left to the pettitioner. This has left the pettitioner feeling like a housekeeper rather than an equal partner."

If you search the site for Unreasonable Behaviour there are lots of examples to get some ideas. The other thing to stear clear of is comments on parenting ability.

LB

You need to put examples of instances and dates. If you lived with the behaviour complained of for more than six months before separating it can be said that you condoned the behaviour. After all, when someone lived with the behaviour for more than six months it can hardly be described as intolerable for you to live together.

If you allege criminal behaviour your husband might defend the divorce which just prolongs the agony and money. Your energy and money is better spent sorting out the finances.

Hi many thanks for comments so far. My problem is that there are far too many dates to memtion and if I'm honest it was so frequent I couldn't tell you! the drugs were every day but it got progressively worse. Can I say something like in the last six months of our marriage?

Thankfully there are no finances or chdren to sort out!

I am hoping that he won't defend he said he wants a divorce so he should be happy!!

I did base my wording on examples from here!! There seem to be a lot that didn't have specific dates etc...