Hello Happe Here

Hi, ive just left a 22 year relationship (15 of them married). I have 2 kids 16 and 13, im sad, scared and feel very alone.
We had been unhappy for years, he seemed to prefer the pub to me and although we both worked hard in full time jobs never had any cash because of it. I was desperate to keep my family together and I suppose i still want the happy ending but I left and moved into a tiny 2 bedded house with my son and daughter (was all i could afford)a few weeks ago. I have left him in our 3 bedded house stupidly because i know he cant afford to rent and felt sorry for him. He within days started seeing a family friend who has already had relationships with some of his mates and she is already sleeping in my bed in the house im still paying bills for.
Im sad, gutted, heartbroken, disapointed, all of these words that he has so little respect for me and our marriage. So on to the divorce courts we go.

Hallo Happe and welcome to Wikivorce

Your story is all too familiar as you will discover.

I have been separated from my husband for 9 months, he is living with someone else, while I am in the marital home with our teenage sons now 17 and nearly 15.

The first four months were the worst in my case, lots of crying, anti-depressants, counselling and supportive friends.

This site has been a godsend. Do post any queries and pop into chat for some lighthearted and sometimes serious talk!

Hi Happe

Welcome to Wikivorce:)

You sound as though you need some support. There are lots of nice people here who will offer that and some legal experts who can help with any questions you have, too.

Chatroom is a great place to 'hang out' if you need some company - it's virtual but it works for us

Take care

Shezi

Thanks for the welcome, its good to know there are others around who have come out the other side.

I did a similar thing, moved out with the kids and moved in with family into cramped conditions with none of our personal items, just one bag each.

A week later I woke up and thought what the heck, drove home and told him we were moving back in.

He had spent the whole week partying and having HER in my home!
Well I stopped his partying, he spent the next week finding himself a new place and moved out, oh he was angry, he turned into a victim, his family sided with him and have fully supported his every move since that date but...

It was the best decision I had made.
The day I moved back home was the day I took control of my life back, first time in 20 years.

It gets better, you will get stronger, it takes time but it's great when you get there. I'm poorer but wiser and happy.

Hi Happe,

You sound like you gave it your best shot and you can't do more than that.

He will be miserable and sorry one day, just wait and see. In the meantime look after yourself and your kids, you deserve better.

LOL Georgygirl

Thanks again for the support. My kids are now refusing to go round to the house cos her clothes and dirty knickers are everywhere, he keeps letting them down by making arrangements then choosing to go to the pub instead and then plays the victim. He honestly doesnt seem to see that he is being a pr**k. He asked for a meet with me this week to "clear the air" but i have decoded not to see him, i know he wants me to make it ok with the kids for him but im not doing that. I have nothing to say to him other than "put the house up for sale NOW" and ill let the solicitors do that. Im actully beginning to hate him.