Well - here I am.......

How did your meeting with the priest go?
Regards
Mike.

Hi Mike,

5pm this evening. Thanks for asking.

I wish you luck.

Something that might help you. I have been having regular counselling which has been extremely helpful. I have been continually advised to continue with the "no-contact" regime.

This week my wife has called and text on a regular basis but I have refused to get involved. What you learn is that it is all about control and I now hold all the cards.

Do not chase too much - you will get hurt. Apply a little "cold-love" and do not be seen as being weak or broken.

Best Wishes
Brunswick.

We will see I guess and I appreciate your advice. Was listening to an old track by a band called Asia from the 80's this morning. the lyrics seem to hold quite a bit of truth for a lot of people on here....

Presented without comment...

Youre leaving now
Its in your eyes
Theres no disguising it
It really comes as no surprise
To find that you planned it all along

I see it now
Becomes so clear
Your insincerity
And me all starrey-eyed
You'd think that I would have known by now

Now, sure as the sun will cross the sky
This lie is over
Lost, like the tears that used to tide me over

{only time will tell}
One thing is sure
That time will tell
{only time will tell}
IF YOU WERE WRONG
The brightest ring around your moon
Will darken when I die

Now, sure as the sun will cross the sky
This lie is over
Lost, like the tears that used to tide me over

{only time will tell}
Youre on your own
Inside your room
{only time will tell}
Youre claiming victory
You were just using me
And there is no one you can use now

Just wanted to chuck my two penneth worth.

Keep the letter dont give it to her.

I agree with Brunswick on the cold love. It is all about control, I was like you early in my separation and was doing everything for xtb, it took me awhile but eventually I stopped doing things for her (little things like buying milk for her on my way around) and now we have no contact. Got to say it is much easier.

I gave the no advice and tough love advice to a colleague of mine, he is now back with her as it gave his wife an understanding of what life would be like without him. I'm not saying it is going to work but at least you become more in control of yourself