i am so so depressed

JoannaA-

glad you have found your strength. May I also suggest that you get some legal advice today- free half hour from some firms- to ensure that you know exactly how to best deal with the ensuing scenario when your husband comes back and realises the game is up!

Good Luck

JoannaA wrote:

so NO MORE - feel the fear and do it anyway - thats me!

Wow!! Well done you - that must have taken a lot of courage. I wish you the very best with it all - it will be a long journey but very worthwhile. Keep posting

Hi soverytired,
After reading this thread I really felt for you and the life you are living.
It seems to me that the years of emtional abuse from your husband has taken a great toll on you, your self esteem and self worth is at rock bottom. Your outward appearance is a reflection of your inner self. Mind and body need to be in sync to survive.

In all your posts you say alot about your being overweight and fat and a mess so your main focus is on that. Look at the root cause for why feel this way about yourself , you said in the beginning that you were not like this when you first met your husband and then you go on to state how his affairs and the way he has treat you has gradually brought you down to the low level you are at now.

There is no excusing his cruel behaviour nor that of your daughters with their awful comments but I wonder why they say such things to you ,their mother..what makes them think they have the right to disrespect you in this way?

You also mention that he "towers" over you and I get the feeling that you feel intimidated by him to have said that?
you reveal quite alot about yourself in the few things that you say, and what distrubed me the most is that you are seeking anti depressants to get you through the next five years until your youngest leaves school because your husband has told you he cannot help or support them if he isnt around ,this to me is emotional blackmail and why should you take anti depressants to get you through and then have it all to face again when you are 54. All you are going to be doing is supressing it all for a later date.

Do you really want to live the next 5 years of your life in this way??
Do you think if you were a size 12 at this moment in time it would change the way you feel about your husband?

In my opinion ,I think you should stop being so hard on yourself and realise that you can move forward with your life if YOU choose to, you will never be the "old" you because your experiences in life have changed you and that happens to all of us, but what you can do is bring yourself back to being happy and enjoying life, it's a tough road for you to travel but its better than the road you are gridlocked in at the moment.

Find out if you can via your GP what counselling there is available to you and I would even suggest that you try contacting "womens aid" you will find their local number in your phonebook ,they are a fantstic organisation for women such as yourself who have suffered abuse,they are extremely supportive and can help you emotionally and all you have to do is pick up the phone and refer yourself noone else has to do it for you.

I really do think that if you set yourself on the path of counselling to help you deal with your life, emotions, self esteem , self respect, all the rest that you are unhappy with (your weight) will follow.

You are a person with feelings not a robot and you deserve respect and love ,caring and understanding from those around you
but more importantly you owe it to yourself to take control of YOUR life, beauty is skin deep because the real beauty of a person isn't the skin they are living in, its the inner person ,the heart the soul, and from reading your posts I know you have heart and soul and it's time to search deep into them and to see your value, your worth and just how beautiful a person you are.
Take care
Angiexx

Wow, such an emotional thread.
SVT, sending you lots of hugs {{{{{{{}}}}}}}, well done girl.
Make a start to change your life, show him you dont need him.
Take care xx

angie43 wrote:

In my opinion ,I think you should stop being so hard on yourself and realise that you can move forward with your life if YOU choose to, you will never be the "old" you because your experiences in life have changed you and that happens to all of us, but what you can do is bring yourself back to being happy and enjoying life, it's a tough road for you to travel but its better than the road you are gridlocked in at the moment.


You are a person with feelings not a robot and you deserve respect and love ,caring and understanding from those around you

i love that video link, Sun- says it all. How do you do that....can I have one? It's so cheerful!

You sure can Constanza!



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