Hi

Hi to all. I have just joined and spent a while reading through everyones posts. I feel so sad that there is so much heartbreak. My story is this. 5 months ago after 13 years together and 5 years of marraige I told my husband I needed a trial seperation after nearly a year of argueing and a brief affair on his part. For about 3 months he tried everything to get us back together and I remained stubborn and told him it would never work. Then about a month ago he met someone and seems to have spent every waking moment with her since. Now he seems so cold and distant, and this weekend he took our 12 year old daughter out bowling to meet the other woman. She wasnt keen to go but has come back full of beans about how great she is and that she really likes her. The thing is.. now I realise how much I still love my husband and its too late. I tried to tell him this weekend and he quite rightly told me I had my time slot and now he's moved on. I'm finding it hard to drag myself out of bed at the moment, and I'm terrified of what my future holds.

Mustgethappy

[it's too late]

It's only too late when you get your Decree Absolute. Suggest you spend some time doing three things:

1. Working out what you really want. People know what they don't want but don't usually know what they do want (so you are no exception!) This might help: Breakup Angels Personal Relationship audit - what do you really really want? £7.97 to download

2. Also Jackie Walker's free special report The 8 Most Overlooked Questions to Save you Pain, Money and Stress.. Before Divorce becomes your Reality could be helpful too

3. Become the person you want him to like again. His new relationship may not last. In the meantime, get yourself up to speed with what was going wrong and what you want in your life and you may well find it.

Good luck;)

Thankyou so much, it really has given me lots to think about. Every tells me the new relationship may not last, but he seems so intense with her at the moment. I cant believe how much this hurts. Why on earth couldnt I have realised all this when he was trying to try again?? I'm such a fool

... you didn't realise you wanted him for months and now suddenly he finds someone else and you realise you do? Are you sure? Or is it just that you don't like the thought of him 'recovering' from the break up so quickly?

I ask because I experienced something similar... I didn't want my ex back when he found someone else but it did feel very peculiar to have him besotted with someone else...

Really? I keep asking myself that question over and over. But how do you know?

Hi

You said he had a brief affair earlier, so he's been unfaithful to you with at least 2 different women.

Why do you want him?

Have some pride. Why do you want a man who has so little respect for you that he has had 2 affairs?