errr where to start!

lol oh that was so funny it cheered me up !

Your x tells you things about her that you don't want to know!

I sympathise.

When I went for a drink with my x after one of our court hearings (don't ask) he told me that he and his ow know exactly what the other is thinking.

So much so that when he bought her a book that he knew she wanted, she said that she knew he was going to buy it for her.


When I drily replied, yes I always knew that you were going to buy me chrysanthemums every birthday, he just looked at me blankly.

The things they say are unbelievable.

Very true he told me that he loves her to bits and she him that they are like a volcano ( well she is!!) they never know when they are going to erupt !!!!!!! Then tells me he always apologises even if its not his fault its easier that way fgs He is at the races today with youngest but you can bet he is texting her all the time he is with him just goes to show much he values his time with his son NIL !!!! Thing that hurts most is son says nothing just glad to have any time with his dad and he plays on that
Next time he says there like a volcano ill tell him to erupt with all the cr p he tells me elsewhere i dont want to or need to know
Little does she know he is cheating on her too!!!!

As hard as this is, you have got to get as far away from your ex as possible - mentally and emotionally. If you don't this will consume you.

As for listening to your ex, why should you have to deal with his emotional dribble? He has lost that right. You don't have to do this, it makes him feel better, although leaves you upset.

Although you may well care for him, he made his bed, so let him sleep in it.

The love marks on his neck indicate ownership at a very immature level.

Clearly his relationship is extremely unhealthy but it doesn't need to impact on you. Yes you will be hurt that he has put her first, but he won't listen, perhaps one day he will, but it won't make the slightest bit of difference what you say to him and just make her aware of the fact that she has got to you.

She obviously sees this as a battle or a claim. I therefore suggest you stay out of it, encourage your children to see their father and focus on you and the new you.

Try and set yourself some clear boundaries to protect your heart.

Sending you hugs xx

Ty your words and advice are very true but hard to do! maybe if i had someone to hug/talk to go out with oh i dont know im so confused by my emotions
Ill try to move on but its so hard x

Hallo Marjan and welcome

My ex left last year to live with ow. He used to pop round to chat and eventually it dawned on me that though I was fine when he wasn't there, after he'd visited I always felt worse, so I asked him to stay away.

I got over him much quicker after that. He still comes round a bit and wants to burble about how he had a great holiday in Portugal with ow and her children as though they are people I have any interest in. I either let him burble on or just interupt with tales of my exciting social life, or I walk out of the room, depending on my mood.

I think some men confuse their exes with their mothers.

Only communicate with him if necessary. Allow your son to sort out contact.

If you feel lonely, find some new friends. Come to a Wikimeet, join a book club, ring the people in your address book. Start focusing on you and your future and you'll find that what your ex and his female(s) are doing isn't of any interest.

Cut yourself off from them, it will be much better for you.Leave them to sort out their own life! She is quite obviously very insecure! (I wonder why???!!!).
It is VERY selfish of him to push the meeting of ow with your son. IF he wanted to meet her it should be in his own time! They have enough to cope with dealing with the split as it is!