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Hi Marjan

You're really hurting and it is hardly surprising. You have been with him longer than you haven't and he has abused the second chance that you gave him and thrown it back in your face in spades.

I'm in a situation where I am really hurting too. I have finally got my husband to admit to sleeping with a prostitute 12 years ago and then another one 7 years ago. For all this time he has denied it and finally he has admitted it and added other infidelities since. I do feel crushed as I know I can't forgive him and will have to walk away. However, I walk away knowing that my conscience is clear and I deserve more than to be with someone who has the capacity to behave in that way and who can treat another human being so badly.

You, and I, have to believe it will get better, and you have your kids who need you. As the others have said, not only is he unfeeling but it sounds as though he is in a very immature relationship and he has no right to dump on you.

Focus on yourself and make sure that you keep healthy and strong and keep conversations with him about the children - get him to see his behaviour towards them through their eyes and appreciate that he only has one chance to be a good dad.

Take care of yourself.