errr where to start!

Hi
Where do i start ! Divorce becomes final on 22nd oct not coping very well with it all.
We were married for 28 years 2 children 16 and 20
He cheated on me i found out and gave it a second chance but then he did it again and blamed me!!!! He came over on Saturday to take youngest to footy when he came back he then told me that the recent g?friend and him had split up AGAIN !!!! to be honest they split up more than they are together
He then proceeds to tell me all abot it i listen and advise like the stupid fool i am .The final insult is he then tells me he loves her to bits .....after 6 months!!!! talk about a knife in the heart !!!!
needless to say he is now back with her the same nite after apologising for something that was her fault fgs why tell me then .? its like mental torture all the time thinking of him with her he never cried or showed any emotion when i gave him the divorce papers ....my friend says its for the best but its hardesp after such a long time but it seems he can do it !!
He is not allowed to speak to me or visit( ie i should not be here when he does) by order of the slut he is with
She who must be obeyed texted him constantley when he is with my sons to the point where i sent he one to tell her to stop it when he is with his sons .Which to cut a long story short eneded up with soon to be x ringing me to say she was in tears and to stop it !!!!! fgs surely his family comes first seems not as he has arranged to do things with son ie watch him at footy then not turned up or texted him to tell him ( he is with her she says he cant go fgs)
Its so hard trying not to say anyhting to youngest but i find myself in tears a lot of the time which upsets him as he knows its to do with his dad i do try not to tell him why but its hard.
The only plus thing is and i know its wrong but he is cheating on her too as ive recently found out its tempting to tell her but then is it worth the fall out
OMG sorry for rattling on but this is a really bad week for me as the date gets nearer and no i dont want him back esp after that slut has had him:angry:

It takes 2 to have an affair.
She is a "slut".
Does that make him a man whore? Because he is as bad.

Yes i suppose it does !!! i never thought of it that way i supposed im blinkered .Still doesnt make it any easier for me sometimes think maybe i should just end it all but then the thought of my lads keeps me from doing it they have been hurt enough

I looked at it like the Absolute was just a piece of paper and my marriage was over long before i got it.

Best thing to do now is to get on with your life. Try to keep contact with the ex to just sorting out the kids and don't get drawn into his private life..... easier said than done i know!

Try to use this site for support and advice if you need it.

Take care

S

Thanks . But new woman says he has to have no contact with me and even got him to change mobile number fgs and goes mad if he comes to see son and im here!!!When ever they fall out which is regular....he comes to me to talk with the love bites that she gives him to as she says to mark that he is hers !!!! Finding it really hard to move on

marjan wrote:

Yes i suppose it does !!! i never thought of it that way i supposed im blinkered .Still doesnt make it any easier for me sometimes think maybe i should just end it all but then the thought of my lads keeps me from doing it they have been hurt enough

Hey - you have got smashing children - they need you. Don't let a very selfish man and a very silly woman bring you down. You will get through this....... hate is such a negative emotion and one wastes a lot of energy hating...
Be proud of what you are doing - you are there for those boys.
Oh and next time he starts wittering on about his other woman and problems, tell him to shut up and grow some! xxxxx

marjan wrote:

Thanks . But new woman says he has to have no contact with me and even got him to change mobile number fgs and goes mad if he comes to see son and im here!!!When ever they fall out which is regular....he comes to me to talk with the love bites that she gives him to as she says to mark that he is hers !!!! Finding it really hard to move on

marjan - re the love bites..
ask him if a dog bit him and if so has he had the anti rabies vaccine?

OMG I am such a bi atch!!!