I seem to have divorced my 18 year old daughter as

Granted but you cant blame a boy for trying and part of the advice was good

Well said mizmagoo.

Arnie wrote

There is no advice re your daughter.

Then again:

part of the advice was good.

Bob the Builder, I wholeheartedly agree with the comments of the others that you should keep persevering. I only wish that my ex did with my daughter. So no petty mindset there.

nothing like having the last word

Absolutely Arnie. Aren't most females like that.

Have a good weekend.

Thats why we love them and U2

Hi Bunty

I totally agree with you. You reap what you sow.

When my ex first cheated on me (without my knowledge) he could have left and the first/second/third daughter would not have been born. He was cheating for the first 10 years of our marriage (according to him) whilst we married and had three daughters.

So when 2 years ago he decided to tell us all what he had been doing and I divorced him, my girls didn't want much to do with him and still dont. He pesters me all the time to take him back and I know my oldest at least considers him to be a pathetic little weazel (she has told me as much). She has even suggesting I move away so that he doesn't know where we are!

My eldest has lost all respect for her father. I think that my ex believed I would stay with him following his revelations (as I did many years ago when he informed me that he had had a one night stand.

Im a firm believer that a man who cheats on his wife cheats on the whole family, the family is never the same because one of the main members has destroyed it.

Therefore, what I would say to a man who has cheated on his wife, be grateful for any contact you have at all with your children. Your relationship with them will never be the same. Not only did you break the children's mother's heart, you also broke theirs and the trust is gone and I would say forever.

Sorry, for being so cruel, but that is my true belief.

Consensus says that stick it out and she will eventualy get in touch with you. Teen time is a bad time for people. All sorts of things happen to you. So just back off as others have said. Few quid at xmas and her birthday and the odd txt. I wouldnt ramp up the gifts as this can be seen as trying to buy her favour. Hopefully in time she will relent and contact you. Fingers crossed for you. C